We've been told yes and no that they send the guys home to be there for their first Borns birth...anyone know of this is true or not?? Or had experience with this? 

I know some fathers who have received paternity leave beforehand and have been sent home on advon but none that were actually sent home just for the birth. I dont think thats something they should be sent home for honestly. 

I'd love to have him here but...he's gonna be woken up every few hours w a new baby, we can't have any fun time after and I think he'd be miserable lol 

Army yes (they try and accomadate with their r&r) but they deploy longer.but red cross doesn't even send a message unless mother or child are in danger or until a confirmed birth.

I had several (3) friends on the meu with my husband and they were not sent home for the birth or after, they came home with everyone else 10 months from start. However he can get baby leave 10 days when he gets home with his block leave. 

I'd just say don't expect him to be there that way if he is you won't have to be disappointed. 

"send him home"... as in he's deployed? If so hell no, i missed both my kids births being deployed.

If he is here he can submit an open ended "baby leave" chit so as soon as you go in labor his leave will start.

I've never heard of someone being allowed to come home from deployment due to a child being born unless there were serious complications with the birth. 

Ya if he is deployed, cuz hes leaving in a month or so. A few guys have been sent home, so I was just wondering 

When is your due date? 

A few guys have been sent home, so I was just wondering 

You're telling me they are letting guys come home from deployment for a child's birth? What kind of deployments are these guys on? I guess a kid being born trumps operational readiness these days... 

The only I have heard this happening is if the Marine is deployed 12+ months and they come home on R&R. They would never send him home to be there for the birth unless something serious was going on. They do have things set up where he can be on skype for the birth, but that depends on where he is at and what they are doing. 

Never heard of it and it sure didn't happen for us or anyone I know.

eta outside of R&R for a 12+ month deployment 

I could see if the guys were sent home for complications and the wife was going to lose the baby. One guy last deployment was sent back bc he was was on the verge of a miscarriage. He was on a MEU and was sent back when they reached a certain port. Not all get that luxury and I would just count on him not being there. 

It depends. I know a couple people who have been sent back for the birth but it was because the docs knew there were complications. But other than that nope. Its part of being married to someone in the military, stinks but it just makes you a stronger person in the end. Having I would just try and find yourself a couple good, real close friends. 

I've never heard of someone being allowed to come home from deployment due to a child being born unless there were serious complications with the birth.

^^^^^^^This

I guess some units are cool but I have never heard of them being sent home. Even when I was hospitalized for a miscarriage with twins, he wasn't sent home. I was 19 weeks when I lost the twins. 

I'm due June 7. But at my last ER visit the nurse told me she swears he's going to come a month early which scared me a bit... 

They have a program where you can have a doula for free if the husband is deployed for support. You should look into that. 

The only I have heard this happening is if the Marine is deployed 12+ months and they come home on R&R

Even then you aren't being allowed home for a child's birth, you are being allowed home for R&R due to the length of deployment and got lucky that the R&R fell on the child's birth. That's moot anyhow she said the guy doesn't even leave for deployment for a month so unless the baby is going to wait 13+ months to be born.... 

Why, did they do an ultrasound that showed a shortened or funneling cervix? If so they should have put you on bedrest. 

Hubby was in Afghan for the birth of our first. We went round in circles, yes, no, yes, no. He was wble to come home in the end, but only because I ended up having life threatening complications. My doctor sent a red cross message. He got leave, but they did not pay for the air travel. It cost us $3,000. But is was far worth it. From what I understand different units and CO's. It was worth it though. 

Ya I can't trust my family to be there and if he is gonna come early...I'm just scared a bit :/ I do have some awesome friends who will be around. Its our first so I think I'm just nervous and adding on the nerves of deployment coming up soon makes it worse, plus I've always been on meds for depression and anxiety. But stopped them once we got pregnant. I lost 30lbs last deployment, and when he's gone for a week I lose 5lbs from stress. So I'm just worrying more than usual. 

Even then you aren't being allowed home for a child's birth, you are being allowed home for R&R due to the length of deployment and got lucky that the R&R fell on the child's birth.

I didnt word it right, I have known a lot of people to schedule R&R for a birth or close to the birth. I have known some that came home and still missed the birth bc baby was late or early. I highly doubt that your husband will be sent back a month into deployment to be by your side. 

One month early the baby will be fine. Our son came 2 months early. He had to stay in the NICU a month, but now he is 11 months and just fine. 

Having you may like your doc but they sound a little coocoo. First they said you will need a csection and now you will probably give birth early weird. 

One month early the baby will be fine.
You never know. My sister had her son 2 weeks early and he had so many complications. He was in the nicu for a month. It was nothing she did just the luck of the draw. Her son is ok now, 2 years old and healthy but it was touch and go for awhile. 

If it makes you feel any better my boys are 16 and 15 and to this day neither has complained i wasn't there for their birth... 

Lol this is a new doctor too!! I think cuz I had 3 periods one on top of the other within like 3 weeks they keep going off of a different LMP date. I like this dr a lot. He's really nice and positive, but I swear every dr gives me a diff date cuz they all go off a diff LMP. 

How can they yell already the baby will come a month early? You have no pior pregnancies to compare it too. I don't get it. 

If it makes you feel any better my boys are 16 and 15 and to this day neither has complained i wasn't there for their birth...
Haha, Donny. I dont think its so much for the child who has no idea, its more for the parent. There nothing like experiencing the birth of your child. Hopefully you have more than 2 kids Donny and got to experience it. 

Look back through your own posts on here and I'm certain you will be able to pinpoint conception. When I go to an OB I tell them my due date, not the other way around. 

Lol this is a new doctor too!! I think cuz I had 3 periods one on top of the other within like 3 weeks they keep going off of a different LMP date. I like this dr a lot. He's really nice and positive, but I swear every dr gives me a diff date cuz they all go off a diff LMP.
Im glad you like your doctor. Due dates are just a guess anyways. they cant tell you the exact day you got pregnant. You just have to let this stuff go and stop stressing. Its not healthy for you or your baby.