I have a problem. I find myself surrounded by the effects of a choice I made about a month and a half ago and don't know where to go from here.
Three months ago my wife and I had our first baby and were fortunate enough to be blessed with a healthy baby girl. Everything has been great since the baby got here, we have been happy as can be ever since.
My problem is that my wife has had no desire to be intimate with me since having a baby. She says her hormone levels are off and she's insecure about her body. I tell her that I have needs and that she's not helping me meet them but she doesn't seem to care. She's too engulfed with the baby.
About a month and a half ago we had a party and needless to say, I got a little tipsy. Two of the guests were my friend and his wife. After about 4 beers and a few shots, my judgement was impaired and I found myself in my bed with his wife. SOMEHOW, nobody noticed we were away and it appeared that we got away with it until she went to the doctor yesterday and has since told me she's pregnant.
What should I do?! I'm thinking about waiting to see if the baby is even mine before telling my wife what I did...
Okay, so you're saying I should tell her now... What about by buddy? Should I tell him or should I leave it up to his wife? What if we tell on ourselves and the baby is his?! Then we're all needlessly screwed!
no don't tell her, come tell us. Then have a party at your house and invite us to witness you surprising your wife with the fact that you might have fathered a baby with your friend's wife. Make sure to invite your friend too.
Have plenty of sharp objects on hand. Many a good domestic disputes were ended too soon due to lack of broken glass bottles.
u need to tell her! if u cant hold ur own like a man when u drink maybe u should not drink . u shuld tell both of them. how dare u w a pregnant wife! wow and she is had a girl.... when ur daughter grows up gets married and gets pregnati hope u thik back to this situation and realize how very messed up it was .if it was not a girl u get my point
#2 Yes talk to her about it and use your brain please by NOT using any excuses. Don't blame her because that is just bull$hit you could of took care of yourself. Don't blame drinking because I think honestly you would of done it sober. You porked your friend's wife so that really shows how low you can go. Just sayin..
So yes talk to her and just try to be understanding of how she is going to feel about it. Just think of how you would feel if she did this to you. What if you got hurt, couldn't have sex, and she runs off having sex with other guys. Not right! So just try to be understanding and take responsibility for your mistake.
What about by buddy? Should I tell him or should I leave it up to his wife? What if we tell on ourselves and the baby is his?! Then we're all needlessly screwed!
This another reason why you should just talk to your wife because I promise you the chick who says you might of knocked her up is going to say something. So either you tell your wife or she finds out by someone else. If your buddy doesn't know he will soon so I would talk to your wife and let his wife talk to him. If she is in fact pregnant just make sure to get the baby tested because if she f*cked you who knows who else she has.