If you were on the fence.... How did you make the decision?

I'm having baby fever and BAD!

We have two children and I swore up and down I didn't want another one. But, I'm starting online classes to finish my BA and be considered maybe a third child would be ok. :)

My car seats 8, my youngest is potty trained, and our oldest.... Well he's 9.

Financially, we are ok. My husband still has 1 1/2 years in his contract so we still have medical.

I had my IUD removed (third one) and now I'm itching more than ever to have another one.

What to do? :/

I talked with hubby til 1:30 in the am discussing pro's and con's. 

I'm a preschool teacher by trade. My son reads at a 6th grade level in 3rd grade and my daughter (2) is potty trained and can write her own name! 

Aw to me it sounds like you really want another one. I don't have children yet. but Id say if you can afford it and you are ready then why not? Just make sure its what you want to do. 

I think if you really want another one and can afford another child and really have no cons...then you should have another, you only regret not having children..you will never regret having more.

what are the cons to having another one? 

Cons.... I had a miscarriage and I'm still hurting from it

Cons... My kids have/had medical issues

Cons... They wouldn't let me have meds when my daughter was born. She came out marconium, jaundice, and sideways! Ouch!

Cons... I don't "want" a boy. :( I want my little girl to have a sissy. I loved having a little sister.

Con: we have two dogs and two kids. A lot of attention! :) but... Good attention!

Con... One kids gets left out.

Also... I started having cysts and was told I may need to start mess to help. And, I have a 10-20% chance at multiples. 

The con always as well is just doing it all over again, those extra few years of having kids in the house.. I don't have much advice. I want another one in 2 years but hubby will be a full time student, by the time we get back settled after the marine corps my son will be older and I think we're just gonna be done at 1. Just think it through, and decide if another baby is right for your family :) 

Pros: I love kids

Pros: we can do it

Con: I feel to old to be pregnant... Again!

Pros: the smell of a newborn!

Pros: seeing a beautiful baby!

Con: freakin' strollers!!!! Diaper bags!!! Poopy diapers!!!! The loss of my body! BFing 

ehh...the more you post..then more i say no 

Con: freakin' strollers!!!! Diaper bags!!! Poopy diapers!!!! The loss of my body! BFing 
Pro: only for a few years:)

Con: I feel to old to be pregnant... Again!
Pro: thankful that you can get preggo again ) 

we talked about having ours after i removed my IUD, but didnt think it would happen so fast lol 

I know how you feel. I have a 9 year old and an 10 month old. If we have another it wont be for a while though... at least not until we find out if my husband can stay in. I would love for our youngest to have a playmate but our oldest survived without one and I don't want to have a baby just so it can play with my other baby. lol. It does sound to me like you want one though :) 

Con: freakin' strollers!!!! Diaper bags!!! Poopy diapers!!!! The loss of my body! BFing 
Pro: only for a few years:)

Con: I feel to old to be pregnant... Again!
Pro: thankful that you can get preggo again ) 

Sadly, my sister may not be able to have kids.... I may end up being her surrogate. Yes, I'm thankful... Just scared.

I watches my close friend give birth to a dead baby at 34 weeks. I'm really scared to be pregnant again.

But, looking at my wonderful children and how good my marriage is.... I keep thinking it would be a shame not to let our family grow a little more. 

we talked about having ours after i removed my IUD, but didnt think it would happen so fast lol 

After I miscarried baby bean, we were expecting 3 weeks later.

After getting the IUD taken out.... I have a much higher drive. My husband told me he can't keep up with me.

Has anyone else experienced this?

I know I'm sharing way too much information. Sorry. I just really need help processing and thinking this over and I appreciate all the input! 

I feel if you are financially prepared, and both of you are wanting one, and the pros outweigh the cons then go for it. 

I feel if you are financially prepared, and both of you are wanting one, and the pros outweigh the cons then go for it. 


I just wish my fears would disappear. :( 

Good mom's always worry, LOL

I say go for it, have another!

It's sounds like you have it together more than most who have way too many. 

After getting the IUD taken out.... I have a much higher drive. My husband told me he can't keep up with me.
bwahaha hence how we got prego so fast 

GB- after you suffer a loss you'll never be the same. You just see things different and that blissful ignorance is lost. After my miscarriage I worried so much. I had two family friends miscarry around the time I did one before and the other shortly after. Since then I have had several good friends miscarry. I bought a PUer a gift after she delivered a still born at the end of her third trimester.

My point is if you decide to try again you'll be terrified about every little hiccup. You'll wonder and worry a miscarriage will happen again. But if you decide to, you just may be holding a little blessing at the end. That will make all the struggles worth it. 

Thanks for all the support and advice from all directions. I have raised (so far) 2 wonderful children and I believe that I can continue to do well by adding one more into the mix.

Like I said, I'm scared. I'm not ready for another heartbreak. Nobody ever is ever ready for a heartbreak.

But, Looking on the bright side....until we truly decide.... Practice makes perfect?!?! Lol 

You seem like an excellent mother and I think these issues (internal debating) is completely normal and natural.
Like so many ladies said above, you won't regret having more children, only the ones you don't. I don't have kids yet, but I know whenever they do come (no matter how many) each will be a blessing to cherish forever.

Good luck to you and your decision!