How much money wise do you help your husband with? Do you split bills or he pays most of them? Or he pays for everything? 

We pay for everything together, because its our money. We don't have my money and his money. 

He pays it all, any money I earn is for savings or for us to have play money. 

I used to work full time, but it wasn't like that was my money for myself. It was all just together and we used all the money we had for whatever we needed. 

I am not employed outside the home besides some money I bring in for various things I do. When I was working outside the home both of our paychecks went into one account and it was our money. Now, it's his check but once it hits our account its our money. 

Well I am a stay at home mom, so I guess he pays for everything. Before I had my son I worked full time and both of our paychecks went into the same account so I guess we split it? I just think once you get married it's 'our' not 'mine or his' any more. 

I feel a little bit better when I make my own money to help the household...I usually splurge for myself a little more too. 

To each their own, but I never understand how married couples keep things separate or split bills. To me that's something you do when you have roommates. I guess it works differently for everyone though. 

When I worked it was our money and now that I stay home with the kids it's still our money. 

We know what needs to get paid and such because we sit down towards the end of each month and make a budget for the next month. so we are both informed and know where the money goes/went 

I feel kinda bad, i recently started working and he started asking me to help with the bills and im ok with it, he just made me feel bad bcus he wrote down everything that he pays for including rent and he told me to give him w.e i tought was right, but i feel like he shudnt even mention rent bcus he gets bah.. at the end he just askd me to give him 500 a month. I dont want to sound like a cry baby im just new to being married and paying bills so idk how it should work.. 

Its always been our money, when I worked and now that I'm home with the kids, its our money. 

We never split ours either, we have a joint account, we just would budget on paper with HIS checks, since we could afford to live off just his income, and then my checks we put half into savings and blew the other half. 

I dont want to sound like a cry baby im just new to being married and paying bills so idk how it should work.. 

It is tough when you're first starting out and figuring out what works for you. I think we went a year into marriage before we got a joint account, because I worked and paid my own bills still except he DID pay all the rent, because he gets BAH. 

at the end he just askd me to give him 500 a month.
Are you his renter? *Why not say I will pay the cable and gas every month and not just say here is $500 for rent and food like a border. 

help your husband

neither of us "help" - we are equal partners so we have a financial plan for our future and both make it happen


im just new to being married and paying bills so idk how it should work

according to your post history you have been married a year - free ride time is over i guess 

Does he not want ya'll to have 1 account? I guess I don't get it.

I never understood the "my" money in a marriage. We have always been a "our" couple. My husband doesn't even like it when I say "his" car even though I never drive it to him its "ours". I don't know. I guess to each there own. Whatever works?!?! 

Bad momma i have been married for a year but 7 months of that yr he was on deployment so ive only lived with him for about 3 months bcus the first 2 months we didnt really lived together 

Just put all your money together. Can you set up direct deposit through your employer? 

I never understood the "my" money in a marriage. We have always been a "our" couple. My husband doesn't even like it when I say "his" car even though I never drive it to him its "ours". I don't know. I guess to each there own. Whatever works?!?!

This is how I feel. When we just had 1 child and she was school aged I had a career. I made a lot of money and it went into one pot. Now that we have a baby it's not worth it to us for me to work outside the home. It took 6 years for our miracle baby to come and I want to spend every second possible with her, plus after gas and childcare it wouldnt be worth the time away from the family. I make money here and there doing various things and that's enough for now. 

I pay the bills but it's his money. lol 

I didnt tought about asking him to get a joint acct, im sure he wont mind! Thats much better 

I would say put all the money into 1 checking account, pay the bills, put money into savings, and leave a little out for both of you to do as you please. Then it won't be im paying this bill and you're paying that bill. You're both paying for everything but you both get to have a little fun too. 

We've had a joint account since basically we got married. All our money just went into that account we never sat there and split the bills up.. 

Thank you hailstorm thats def better! I will talk to him about it, and thanks everyone for anwsering my questions! I know more now :) 

Just do a joint account, let it be "our" money. A marriage works better when everything is"ours".


My husband teases me by saying, "we say its our money but really its yours" :) 

so idk how it should work

you have to discuss options with him and find the best one that works for both of you and is fair

for us, we have a joint account and credit cards and i control the finances because i have the time and im good at it. my husband also has a separate account with a balance of approx $1500 so he can buy things (my birthday gift or flowers) without me finding out for a week or so because i download statements every morning but his slush fund account i download monthly

others split things 50/50 or have very yours and mine lines - i dont get that but to each their own, it works for them 

so he can buy things (my birthday gift or flowers) without me finding out for a week

My husband is a spaz when it comes to checking the bank statements so whenever I need to buy him a gift, I get small amounts of cash back at whatever store until I have enough to purchase the item. He tells me im a sneaky crafty woman and wonders how much money I really have hidden in the mattress. Lmao. 

He tells me im a sneaky crafty woman and wonders how much money I really have hidden in the mattress.

hubby nearly died when we were packing - i had about $6K in cash in the house, its my emergency fund i told him and when all the computers crash and the machines dont work i'll have money to buy water and chocolate. and then i stuck my tongue at him - very mature

edit: and then i spent about half of it :( 

I guess he pays everything because I don't work. However it's our money so we don't think of it that way.