Tell you about personal problems or Gossip about his Marines to you? IE family problems, cheating spouses. I was recently at a party, and all I heard was gossip from ladies, Where did they hear it from? Their husbands. Do you think its right? 

My husband tells me things, but it isn't like he comes home and says "Oh Em Gee you aren't going to believe what happened!" It is more like he's got to go take care of something stupid and when I ask why he tells me what happened.

It isn't our dinner time conversation if that is what you are asking. It is usually in passing. 

This is what I admire about my husband. He is not a gossiper. I don't hear about divorces or cheating unless its straight from the horses mouth.
I cant stand men that gossip. 

Not really. If I think nicely of a guy he works with and ask him why they never hang out outside of work, he may tell me enough to let me know the guy really isn't a good guy to be hanging around, but he doesn't gossip. And I know they gossip just as bad as women at work, they are just better at leaving it there. 

My husband never tells names, but asks my opinion... Like if something is happening with his wife or kids... 

My husband never tells names, but asks my opinion... Like if something is happening with his wife or kids... 

My husband does not do this at all. I'm glad because I'm not a therapist. 

My Husband tells me everything. He knows I don't go back and tell everyone I meet about so and so.

I don't think of it as gossip, more of that he is just venting about the bulls*t he had to hear about or deal with. 

My Husband tells me everything. He knows I don't go back and tell everyone I meet about so and so.

I don't think of it as gossip, more of that he is just venting about the bulls*t he had to hear about or deal with.

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Half the time I'm not listening, I just let him vent. 

Half the time I'm not listening, I just let him vent. 

LOL Me too! 

Half the time I'm not listening, I just let him vent.

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My Husband tells me everything. He knows I don't go back and tell everyone I meet about so and so.

I don't think of it as gossip, more of that he is just venting about the bulls*t he had to hear about or deal with.

X2. I listen and let him vent but it's not like he's gossiping. Just talking about the BS that he had to deal with that day. 

What I don't get is why does an issue on here have to be black or white so often?

What works in one marriage may not work in another. Same goes for the infidelity thread. Some people might like their privacy while others might feel like they are fine with being completely open with each other.

I told my MIL once that my husband may not be perfect, but he is perfect for me and that is all that matters.

The PU has gotten really ridiculous lately with these take one side of an issue threads. Why? There are things you (just in general not anyone in particular) might be able to deal with in your marriage that others would see as a deal breaker. 

This is the what my husband explained to me. Imagine we had something going on in our lives. He asked for help, and that person turned around and told his wife. Would you like that? Every time you see the wife you know she knows your dirty laundry.
Our Number one rule is we keep our personal business out of the Marine Corps. But I can see some young Marine asking for advice.Its none of my business. Especially if it was told in confidence. 

Agree with Green. 

What works in one marriage may not work in another. Same goes for the infidelity thread. Some people might like their privacy while others might feel like they are fine with being completely open with each other.

I told my MIL once that my husband may not be perfect, but he is perfect for me and that is all that matters.

The PU has gotten really ridiculous lately with these take one side of an issue threads. Why? There are things you (just in general not anyone in particular) might be able to deal with in your marriage that others would see as a deal breaker. 

Relax its just PU. Dont answer if you dont care. 

Very well said Green! 

I guess it kind of depends. I wouldn't say he gossips but he lets me know when its important. At his current command everyone pretty much keeps their life private but when he was on the ship it was one big orgy. Like an MAC (e7 mp) go caught banging a e3 and he was married. Anyway, because of his job and position it was a huge mess. Then the FRG leaders husband got caught banging someone on the ship and he told me because he thought it would be better coming from him than from the gossip mill. 

He asked for help, and that person turned around and told his wife. Would you like that? Every time you see the wife you know she knows your dirty laundry.

I think that is different. I also know my husband would feel like he should go to someone like the Chaplain if it was a big enough situation for him to want to discuss.

I have never heard my husband come home and tell me about anyone's "dirty laundry" unless it affected us because he has to leave during non-working hours to take care of something. Obviously he is going to tell me what is going on in that kind of situation. Usually those situations are so sensational and drama filled that we wouldn't be hanging out with that couple on a regular basis anyway. Once you air your own dirty laundry in public you are slightly screwed if you suddenly want it to go away.

A Marine going to another in confidence is totally different than calling your command to come rescue you before you are put in jail. 

Relax its just PU. Dont answer if you dont care.

I didn't say I don't care. I do care that there are so many people who think all marriages should fit their mold. It is really narrow-minded.

ETA: You should probably do a post check on yourself if you are telling me to relax its just PU LOL 

My husband doesn't tell me any gossip and I didn't even know the names of the guys he worked with til I met them. They told told me 10x more in 5 mins than my husband ever did lol. My husband is so "nice" that he doesn't even like when I gossip lol. 

A Marine going to another in confidence is totally different than calling your command to come rescue you before you are put in jail. 

In all honesty, My husband would say Marine in Jail have to go. the details of him going to jail is none of my business. I trust my husband that if it were "bad" we would not be hanging out with this guy. 

In all honesty, My husband would say Marine in Jail have to go. the details of him going to jail is none of my business. I trust my husband that if it were "bad" we would not be hanging out with this guy.

Good for you guys that it works that way in your marriage :) 

My husband doesn't tell me any gossip and I didn't even know the names of the guys he worked with til I met them.

This.
I feel like a dummy because everytime we go to a family outing. I say to them nice to meet you and they say nice seeing you again. 

I was sitting in a restaurant in the village eavesdropping on some marines while waiting for my friend, and they were all gossiping about a court case going on. One of the guys was defending the guy in court but secretlynhated him, and they were all talking about it like teenage girls lol. And they were officers, aren't they supposed to be held to the highest standard? But anyways yep marines gossip just like we do lol 

But anyways yep marines gossip just like we do lol

I would say "men" gossip just like we do. I see it all the time and it makes me laugh. 

My husband doesnt really talk about work or who he works with that often. We held a poker game in 29 Palms and I was surprised that the guys were all gossiping about what was going on in other Marines lives or whose wife was cheating on who. They really do gossip like women lol.

I learned a lot that night about some of the wives of his Marines. Another reason I always choose not to make friends with the wives of the husbands my husband works with. I dont want to know their personal problems. Im actually surprised these guys tell people at work about their personal issues. I sure wouldnt want people I worked with to know some of the things they tell each other. Id be embarrassed for them to know I had a wife that did some of the things they were talking about. 

Eh my husband tells me if someone needs help or he'd like to pick my brain for advice to help a fellow Marine (like their wife driving them nuts). As far as whos bangin who bs, hes always the last to know LOL, but unless he knows it from the source (ie the cheater themself) he doesnt perpetuate it. There isnt much "drama" or rumors at our command so its no biggie. 

Marines are worse than women! My husband comes home and tells me what happens at work, can't help if that information has some gossip in it! :) 

My husband has told me about several of his co-workers who have cheated, either one brought a girl to my dh's barracks room when he was single to "show her off" (that guy was married with kids), another guy cheats on his wife on a regular basis, she just had a baby a month ago and the night she went into labor he was at a casino with another girl. I could go on and on. I will never tell them because it isn't my business and dh trust me not to say anything cause he still has to work with these stupid guys. But man do I want to yes. Because I would want to know. 

My husband vents about things from work. He knows I'm not a blabbering fool so what he tells me doesn't leave my mouth. Men gossip just as much if not more than women. I found it quite interesting when I worked with mostly men lol