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Anyone else out there a shopaholic? I need help!

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Donny 1
petit oiseau 1
Dots 2
***C+J*** 1
Smile 1
MisssChefff 2
ItchyWitch 1
anothersmith 1
CuteCurlyC 2
emknickerbocker 1
BSoule 7
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BSoule --- 7 years ago -

I need help with this shopping addiction! I can't seem to just STOP SPENDING!!! I even cut up credit cards, but then they are still linked to ebay and amazon and what not so I still spend money!!! I need to cut it out now while I am some what ahead... Please I need realistic suggestions... No... just stop. Wish I could but it is not that easy! I need a support group or something! Thanks! 

CuteCurlyC --- 7 years ago -

Cutting up the credit cards sounds like a start, next I think you should unlink your cards from any websites, order a new credit card for emergencies (I say new in case you have memorized the number to a current one. Just have them issue your card with a new number). If you aren't strong enough to do any of this have your husband do it and also keep the emergency credit card so you are not tempted. Good Luck!! 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

Yeah I think I should have him hold the "emergency one". I had a couple different cards with different balances... I have one with a 5000 limit and every year around tax time I would pay it down to 2000 and within the year I would max it back out. I have decided I should cancel that one because even if it may hurt my credit because I have had it the longest I am not helping myself any by leaving it open either. 

CuteCurlyC --- 7 years ago -

I understand you wanting to cancel the card that gives you the most temptation, but I don't think its a good idea because like you said, it will hurt your credit. Try having that one as you emergency card and having your husband keep it. Also, try using cash for all purchases. People tend to be more frugal when you are actually seeing the money go instaed of just swipping a card. 

anothersmith --- 7 years ago -

I'm a shopaholic too, if I walked into a store I had to leave with something..anything! What I've found is the easiest for me..is taking out cash and only using that. It was hard to get into the habit. I make a list before I go somewhere, and if I pick up something not on the list ill walk around with it and gradually talk myself out of purchasing. If I go out shopping (grocery) I bring a calculator and give myself a limit. Its sad, but after weening myself from shoe/clothing shopping..I became obsessed with buying home furnishings, and then grocery items. Eek! Bottom line..use cash! 

littlesilverheart --- 7 years ago -

Do u have kids ? u work? 

7ate9 --- 7 years ago -

Times a million to what Betty said. I used to be so bad at keeping receipts around and returning items, but it really does help. Half the time I don't need it and I am much better now at keeping the tags on and receipt until I'm sure I want to keep it. 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

No kids, and yes I work... and very hard. I go to school full time (I pay out of pocket) and I work around 32 hours a week in sales. So I make decent money and in my eyes it is like rewarding myself. My husband and I have always decided to have seperate banking accounts because we seperate the bills and that way not one person is in charge of it all. So at least I am not hurting his accounts and we don't fight about it... but I know I am hurting myself. 

Dots --- 7 years ago -

I always go into a store, pick out all of the things I want, put them in my cart and walk around. Eventually I walk around long enough that I feel bad and slowly start putting everything back. By the time I leave, I either only have one thing, or nothing. 

Dots --- 7 years ago -

I always go into a store, pick out all of the things I want, put them in my cart and walk around. Eventually I walk around long enough that I feel bad and slowly start putting everything back. By the time I leave, I either only have one thing, or nothing. 

emknickerbocker --- 7 years ago -

after weening myself from shoe/clothing shopping..I became obsessed with buying home furnishings, and then grocery items.

the same thing happened to me, and using cash really does help. I make myself a budget at the beginning of everymonth and take out cash for groceries, gas, and 'fun' etc i put the cash in seperate labeled envelopes and once it's gone it's gone and I don't let myself take anything else out. Bills i still pay with a card though. 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

Since my post I took all the cards out and only left one with a 500 limit in my wallet. I still feel tempted everyday to use them but I took out cash, downloaded a balancing checkbook app called accounts, and I have only used my card a handful of times compared to how often I usually do! :) 

***C+J*** --- 7 years ago -

Congrats! That's awesome! 

Smile --- 7 years ago -

Yay!

http://www.flourishinprogress.com/
She gave up shopping for a year  

ItchyWitch --- 7 years ago -

I always go into a store, pick out all of the things I want, put them in my cart and walk around. Eventually I walk around long enough that I feel bad and slowly start putting everything back. By the time I leave, I either only have one thing, or nothing. 

LOL I do this too. I rarely buy things for myself it is always for my girls. I always think they "need" it when in reality their closet is full of clothes! 

Donny --- 7 years ago -

Act like a freaking adult. Seriously you are going to use "my credit cards are still linked to ebay...etc"?

Here's a thought. Edit/delete your credit card info on your online accounts and the problem is solved. 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

Donny- wow. You are a keeper. I am sure whoever your significant other is (if you have one) thinks that to themselves everyday. I am so thankful I have someone so demeaning and inconsiderate in my life and it must be why I hate myself and I am contemplating.... ahhh glad I am not him/her! Thanks Donny for making me love my husband that much more!!!!! 

petit oiseau --- 7 years ago -

Donny- wow. You are a keeper. I am sure whoever your significant other is (if you have one) thinks that to themselves everyday. I am so thankful I have someone so demeaning and inconsiderate in my life and it must be why I hate myself and I am contemplating.... ahhh glad I am not him/her! Thanks Donny for making me love my husband that much more!!!!! 

Sometimes people need constructive criticism to give them that extra push. You openly asked for advice and he gave it. No need to demean him. 

MisssChefff --- 7 years ago -

www.amiclubwear.com
www.makemechic.com

Also, why dont you try selling items? And then use that money to spend, it can be like an allownace!

:)

its amazing and CHEAP CHEAP CHEAP!! Its my favorite, i LOVEEEE their shoes, their dresses are like club dresses, but some are cute and ok for everyday, just gotta look, but their shoes is what i go for! LOVE! 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

That's exactly what I am doing proudmarinewifey! :) I am selling all the things I do not use or need and all my old text books on ebay :) I've made 600 this past month.

Petit- Correct I asked for advice, not sure where you come from where demeaning me is helpful advice? He gave me no advice actually except "act like a freaking adult".... so I would say he began demeaning me and I stook up for myself. Shopping just like smoking, drinking, etc can be an addiction. I will leave this post at that. 

BSoule --- 7 years ago -

And if he hadn't begun bashing me automatically he would see that I already posted that I removed those cards from all online accounts and put them away. So kudos to him for jumping the gun and assuming I am a dumb sob. 

MisssChefff --- 7 years ago -

Ya i am a shopper lol :) 

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