My husband asked for a divorce and I found out he has a GF. Has anyone been thru this and gone to the command? If so, was anything done? 

He will probably get demoted. Depends on his command. 

From my understanding it doesn't do much. Slap on the wrist and a "don't get caught". But it could vary depending on the command... 

He is very high up. But he should not be able to get away with it. He is strutting her around town. 

He is very high up.

How high? My husband has know a few that were caught in this type of scandal.....ranks ranging.

It ALL depends on the command. If they like him, he will most likely get a slap on the hand. Otherwise, he could be in deep sh!t. 

Definitely depends on the command. The only time I've really heard of anything happening is if the other woman is a Marine herself and they're fraternizing, or if the girl is underage. Don't focus on hurting his career, just take care of yourself and your kids if you have them. While revenge usually temporarily feels good, it's not worth it in the long run. Good Luck. Sorry you're having to go through this. 

Definitely depends on the command. The only time I've really heard of anything happening is if the other woman is a Marine herself and they're fraternizing, or if the girl is underage. Don't focus on hurting his career, just take care of yourself and your kids if you have them. While revenge usually temporarily feels good, it's not worth it in the long run. Good Luck. Sorry you're having to go through this.

I agree with all of this. 

Just know that if you do go to the command and affect his Rank, it will reflect in his paycheck. If it were me, I would rant to anyone and everyone but not take official action. Men tend to only feel the pain when it affects their car payment ability (-; 

Definately depends on the command. My ex husband was having an affair on me and left me two weeks after finding out I was preggo with my third... he was at edson at the time. But they told me "we try to keep our marines out of trouble" so as long as he didn't bring her around my kids anymore until the divorce was final... they wouldn't do anything. 

Just remember, if they get demoted... The paycheck will reflect that. So, if children are involved it could be a financial hardship. Also, if he's making less.. That's less child support. Something to think about. 

Kelley- we think alike 

it depends on the command my ex didnt get demoted or anything tho, they could've njp'd him and a bunch of other stuff but they didn't 

My ex husband was having an affair on me and left me two weeks after finding out I was preggo with my third...

WOW,what an @ss. 

It does depend on the command. Integrity is a big deal. Especially with a position of authority. It reflects poorly on the whole group. The problem is, if hes demoted or punished pay will be taken away and if you've got kids they will be the ones who suffer.

If your husband cheated, it sucks but no other job in the world (besides politicians) mix personal and business scandal.
Its more important to get past the pain and anger than to punish him. Work on you. If you have kids especially. Dont make MORE problems.

That is all. 

WOW,what an @ss.

Im glad it happened... made me a stronger woman and then I found my current husband and he's pretty amazing. And im glad that they did nothing because it would have affected our child support and I have primary custody of all three kids and I do not get much in child support. But if I would not have found out and he wouldn't have asked for the divorce I would have stayed naive for years longer... 6 was enough and luckily he never gave me anything. 

Giggle: What can I say, I like money more than I do spite. In that scenario it would be hard to keep it shut, but, I'd manage, I hope! 

My husband said that you need to make sure that you have proof of the actual affair, not just that you saw or heard about him with this woman. Is she in the Marines as well? That is more frowned up on and they can both get in trouble if so. 

Giggle: What can I say, I like money more than I do spite. In that scenario it would be hard to keep it shut, but, I'd manage, I hope! 

I've seen it happen before. Only, they are still married. 

My husband said that you need to make sure that you have proof of the actual affair,

even with proof it depends on the command and depending on who deals with it they may ask her what she wants to do if she goes to them 

You have to have real proof he's messing around for him to get into trouble. He said she said doesn't work.

I don't understand why people take things like this to the command. I get if he's hurting you/kids or doing something illegal but cheating? All this does is gives more work for him and his command that the don't need. 

All this does is gives more work for him

Who gives a sh!t about HIM. I would personally hit him in the wallet. 

I get nothing no kids. So the money doesnt mean a thing to me. 

Who gives a sh!t about HIM. I would personally hit him in the wallet.

and his COMMAND!

Yes hit his wallet then come back on here and cry because child support isn't what you wanted it to be. 

I don't understand why people take things like this to the command.

I took it to the command cause I wanted his a$$ outta my house, they said they wanted the proof to show him and say this is why you are not allowed going home unless accompanied. if he had come home that night i found all those pics god only knows what would've happened. 

Yes hit his wallet then come back on here and cry because child support isn't what you wanted it to be.

uh, I meant by getting more child support 

I get nothing

in Ca you can claim spousal support for half the time you were married or alimony if you were married for more than 5 years 

I get nothing no kids. So the money doesnt mean a thing to me.

Honestly as bad as it sounds because you have no kids or a family to take care of my guess is that it will be even more unlikely that he receives any "punishment" from his command. As unfair as that is, my guess is they'll stand by him and not get involved. 

We werent! We are newlyweds! He had my entire family and military neighborhood duped! 

Yes hit his wallet then come back on here and cry because child support isn't what you wanted it to be.

Your logic is flawed, she said that she doesn't have kids which would already mean that there will be no child support. 

Does your family live close? also if you live in base housing and you decide to get a divorce you are allowed to stay in that house until the divorce is final and you can request for him to stay in the barracks

if you want to try and work it out you may want to start talking to him i hope you figure things out