So my neighbor left her husband.due to him cheating.before but.he says she's.not..he.says.he.does.now love her anymore.. now my neighbor.keeps texting me to see if any girls show up to the house. She's been gone a.week. 3 days ago a girl showed up and has not left. I spoke to the girl in the house.today.

I live in housing. I guess what I am asking is.would u tell the wife? I am friends with her but.not bffs 

I wouldn't. You don't wanna get into the middle of that even if she is your friend. He could get mad at you if he found out you where saying something and might try to start something with you. 

secretly inform housing that another woman just moved in... 

She might be a friend but it's still not your business and if she wanted to know who was at her house she wouldn't have left him or implied that she was leaving him. 

She asked you a question. I don't think answering it is getting in the middle. You can either lie or tell the truth and then leave it at that. I wouldn't have any problem answering the question but I wouldn't be willing to get involved in the situation. 

If the situation was flipped, and it was your husband and another girl would you want her to tell you?
Personally I'd want to know and she has the right to know so I'd tell her. The other husband can't expect you to meet this other girl and not tell his wife so he's just asking for trouble or is very very stupid. 

There is something similir happening on my block. I'd stay the hell out of it. I wouldn't talk to her anymore at all. It's none of your business and if she wants to know, she should drive her bum to the house and find out. 

I agree with puppylove she shouldnt have left if she still cares that much.... as I always say "not my husband, not my problem". 

maybe I misunderstood-But I took it as she thought her husband was cheating so she got mad and left for awhile...it's only been a week-they aren't divorced. If I found out my husband had been cheating I wouldn't want to be in the same household as him either. I'd need time apart before figuring out if it was worth saving the marriage or not.

She deserves to know what a jerk he is and obviously he doesn't care so she needs to leave him. Maybe she's hoping there's a chance he's not cheating and holding onto that last hope.

I wouldn't talk to her anymore at all.
Why would she stop talking to her friend?

Honestly it's bad enough stereotypically (not always) guys stand up for guys to help hide cheating-now the women are gonna help hide his behavior too? That's pathetic 

100% agree with namenotalreadytaken! 

She deserves to know what a jerk he is and obviously he doesn't care so she needs to leave him.

How could she NOT know? He told her he doesn't love her anymore. What else does she need to know? That would be enough for most people. 

He told her that or he told the person who started this discussion? 

He told her that or he told the person who started this discussion?

Who knows? To be quite honest, I had trouble deciphering the original post. 

Me too, I took it as he told the friend this, not the wife. Which is why I said what I did. 

If my friend went home for a bit to think about things and texted me and asked if someone was at her house I would tell her. She isnt asking if he is cheating, if he is messing with other girls she is asking if someone else is there and thats what you would be telling her. You arent getting in the middle just answering a question. 

unless she's a bff i stay the hell out of it. 

"Unless she's a bff i stay out of it"

With friends like that who needs enemies 

I agree with what someone else said.. if she cares and loves him that much she would of not left in the first place and stayed and tried to make things work.. she left him and still wants to control his life.. does not work like that..

And i would stay the hell out of thier mess why put yourself in that drama and the he said she said games.. 

It might cause a problem putting u in the middle . But I personally would just tell her I don't wanna get unloved maybe u should ask him and she might figure it out on her own ya know 

I agree with what someone else said.. if she cares and loves him that much she would of not left in the first place and stayed and tried to make things work.. she left him and still wants to control his life.. does not work like that..

I suppose I did not get from the OP that she had left for good and had filed for divorce. If so then I'd just tell her you'd rather not get involved. I took it more as this friend of hers wants to know for sure if he is cheating or not so she can decide what to do. But then again the OP was decidedly hard to read. o.O 

Honestly it's bad enough stereotypically (not always) guys stand up for guys to help hide cheating-now the women are gonna help hide his behavior too? That's pathetic 


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If she asked me I WOULD DEFEINATLY TELL HER! WHY should we let men get away with it... and i agree--if she did leave because she thought he was cheating, only to find out after she left that HE IS CHEATING... I WOULDA BEEN OUT TOO....
its not like she ABANDONED HIM....she WASs upset and hurt--i mean who wouldnt be>!?!

Listen, i would tell her before letting her know that i dont want to be a part of ANY DRAMA...but that I AM A WOMAN, I WOULD BE HURT if that were me and THEN YOU TELL HER THE TRUTH. what she does with him AFTER YOU TELL HER, IS ON HER...BUT THAT YOUR OUT OF IT.

GOOD LUCK