SO i have a 3 month old and all of a sudden I have anxiety about SIDS after reading up on it more and geting a class from a mommy and me get together. My son sleeps in his crib in our room but I still am super worried. I sleep on the floor next to the crib and dont want to nap during the day. I am absolutely terrified and just wondering if I should talk to someone to try and ease my worry or does any one have any advice. I have never been a worrier in my life but now all I see myself doing is worrying about SIDS and I know that sleepless nights and no naps is going to catch up to me and I dont want my husband to start getting annoyed with me worrying and to hurt myself by being exhausted and eventually hurting my son because I will not be able to do things to the best of my ability. Any advice is great thank you all.
Welcome to motherhood. You worrying about him makes you a good mother. You have read up on it, so you know what you can do to help prevent it. Just do what you know what to do. You got to get some sleep new mommy!
Thank you DaniP, I love my son very much and it might be that I am a first time mother which is why I am so worried but I just cant imagine losing my son. And I started doing all the things to prevent, but I just dont want to get over obsessed with my worrying cause I know that can cause problems as well. =] And I am going to go buy that monitor that vod kaknockers suggested so I can feel a little better
If you really look into sids you will see it truly isn't something you can prevent. Its a sad thing but in reality there is so much more out there that can hurt your baby. Relax motherhood is all about worrying about something. But you need to keep yourself healthy so you can properly care for your little one. If you feel your fears are over board and are having trouble controling them I would see a psychologists. They can probably help you better
Just make sure that you have everything clear in the crib! It's okay to worry like you are. I have nightmares of finding my boys at the bottom of a swimming pool or something! It's good that you care because there are so many mommies out there who lack parental attention and things like accidental deaths happen to their children! Plus, the older they get the less chances they have of getting SIDS. I think they say after 4 months? Don't quote me...but I know that once your baby can hold his/her head up they say there is a slight risk!
I lost my daughter to SIDS in 2008. She was 3 months old...I know Im probably now freaking you out more..BUT I will say that there is nothing you can do..If it is going ot happen it will happen. Can you imagine how scared I was when I had my son in 2010..???I remember one time yanking him up because he looked to still...He freaked out and cried..When you go to bed at night you just have to know that you have done everything you can as a mother to insure your son is as safe as possible...Dont let your worrying drive you to not enjoy the blessing you have been given..!!
I lost my daughter to SIDS in 2008. Im so sorry for your loss. Before my friend lost her baby to sids I didnt know much about it except what you are told by the doctors and told how to prevent it, but afterwards I learned a lot and most people really dont understand sids and dont realize you really cant prevent sids. All the suggestions are really there to prevent a baby from suffocating on something in the bed or the bed itself. I cant imagine what you went through, watching a friend go through it was horrible. Nothing I did or could do helped and once she had another baby she was very paranoid to but the doctor kept reassuring her that if it was going to happen it would and nothing she did will stop it from happening.
It was a hard time in my life but God has blessed me wiht the strength to move on...I still miss her on somedays but I def. have many blessings here :) Carlyrod I read this also...But Paisley(my daughter) had a pacifier 24/7...I ultimately think it is inevitable. If it is going to happen it will...!!! Good luck to anyone struggling with this worry but also know that it is in Gods hands...To worry would only aid in you missing out on the happy moments..!!
I think pacifier use may help with SIDS. I heard this on the news a few years ago, not sure if new research has been out since.
^^^^ I have heard this as well. I read that when babies go to sleep with a pacifier they are at less risk for SIDS because their brain is constantly working to suck on the pacifier. So they won't go into a deep deep sleep where they don't wake up. My son is 9 months old and I still have him going to sleep with a pacifier.
My history teacher was saying that she read an article connecting SIDS with smoking around infants (including 3rd hand smoke and while pregnant). I guess 96%+ of the infants lost from SIDS during their study had one or more person in the home smoking. Just another reason why parents shouldnt be allowed to smoke around kids
*also all mommies worry and stress about SIDS, as they grow it turns into are they old enough for a big kid bed, then checking their rooms 5 times a night lol It never goes away! I dont know why people say they are glad their kid finally sleeps through the night, moms still wake up and check
Taminator...YES smoking around kids is HORRIBLE...!!! BUT I have to question your study 96% is VERY high..I doubt that it is accurate...I lost my daughter to SIDS in 2008 and NO ONE smoked around her...Again SIDS is something doctors cant explain..BUt you are right in saying you should never smoke around your children..That should be common sense by now..but I still see it being done..ridiculous..!!
My friend who lost her child to SIDS never smoked, nether did anyone in the home. They say they think its linked. They truly dont know what causes it, just some kids are born with it and some arent. Truly nothing you can do to prevent it. Smoking around child is ridiculous, I dont actually get smoking at all but its someones choice. Just be respectful and responsible if you are going to do it.
I have a friend who lost a baby to SIDS and no one in the home ever smoked. The baby was put down to sleep one day at the babysitter's and never woke up. No one could ever find a reason why it happened.
To the OP all you can do is take the proper precautions.