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Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

We are done having kids. Surgery is set for tomorrow am.. But were both using the well if we change our mind years down the road we can change our mind.. How did you know? 

LaLa --- 5 years ago -

i dont have any kidos
but im thinking if you are even considering not doing it you shouldnt.
Thats a big deal and you should be 100% sure. 

Pink Taco --- 5 years ago -

How old are you and how many do you have? 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

Im 24 hes 27 and we have two girls 28 months apart. The only way i really want another is adopting 

champatlife --- 5 years ago -

I wouldn't do it yet personally for doubting sake, and your both young, both girls, are they under 5? 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

I wouldn't do it yet personally for doubting sake, and your both young, both girls, are they under 5? 

Im not doubting it. Nor is he, he's 100%. We both would love to adopt and there hasn't been a boy born in his family in 27 years so were not counting on a boy anyways. And yes both girls under 5 

champatlife --- 5 years ago -

however on the otherside- I bet cold feet is normal in this situation, but back over on the other side of the fence- I have friends who swore up and down they didn't want anymore kids (wether they had one kid or two) and a few years later they start talking about wanting to try for another. 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

however on the otherside- I bet cold feet is normal in this situation, but back over on the other side of the fence- I have friends who swore up and down they didn't want anymore kids (wether they had one kid or two) and a few years later they start talking about wanting to try for another. 

Yikes.. Well since he's doing its reversible most likely.. But I'm for sure i don't see us wanting more.. He loves the older stage but doesn't like the baby stage 

champatlife --- 5 years ago -

I'd wait til one starts school to have the surgery.

(but that's me, and I think I'd cry all the way to the doctors) 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

I'd wait til one starts school to have the surgery.

(but that's me, and I think I'd cry all the way to the doctors) 


Haha its not me lol.. I don't think ill cry at all unless i change my mind years after feeling bad to make him get it reversed 

champatlife --- 5 years ago -

oh, it's him! NVM- as I said I think wondering if now is the time, is pretty normal, and with chances that it's reversible, along with how you both feel. Press forward. 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

I think wondering if now is the time, is pretty normal

Yah i think so too :) Thanks for the pep talk helped me know everyone does second guess it I'm sure 

BaylesObedience --- 5 years ago -

we are done and both getting "fixed" we decided to both do it together. we will have 3 2 boys and our girl is on the way. im young and so is my husband. i have really hard pregnancys and have had miscarriages. 3 was our max number we reached it and now were done. we dont think my body could go threw it again. and we were very happy with our 2 our third was a surprised blessing. but thats it for us. were not big family ppl.a family of 5 for us is just right.

we have no doughts and are both 100% sure this is what WE want. if ur throwings ifs and unsures in there then id wait if i was you. its a proceedure and make sure you are doing it when you know you are ready

but if ur not go forward the nh has a class about it and has great info 

Poe --- 5 years ago -

When I saw those damn pink lines on my pee stick. I swore I would never have kids, I guess now I'll have one. 

AZbound --- 5 years ago -

My husband and I were positive that we were done having kids. We have one girl and one boy ages 6 and 4....low and behold we changed our minds. We are now 12 weeks along with our 3rd. You're still young & your kids are young. I wouldn't do anything drastic just yet. 

*All Smiles* --- 5 years ago -

We waited 9 years before making it permanent. I knew the day I gave birth to my youngest that I was done and I was 19. Nine years later my husband did it as a pseudo bday present to me...lol. 

CharlieWhiskey2 --- 5 years ago -

Why the heck are you the one getting the surgery?
I will never, ever do that! He can do it. 

champatlife --- 5 years ago -

I will never, ever do that! He can do it.

her husband is the one getting it.. not her. 

accountnickname --- 5 years ago -

I know I'm done because I KNOW that if for some reason I changed my mind I would want to adopt from foster care rather than have another genetic child. I have not taken any permanent steps, however.

Why the heck are you the one getting the surgery?
I will never, ever do that! He can do it. 


The least invasive and most effective permanent method is Essure which is done on a woman. 

reinacat --- 5 years ago -

When we got married 15 years ago my husband wanted 4 kids. I always wanted 2. We actually almost settled for 1, but are so glad we have 2.

My husband was 100% sure. I was too, it was just sad knowing I will never have another baby I guess.

Most all my friends seem to go through this. It is a huge choice, one we are so glad we made.

We would love to have a bunch of kids, but it just isnt reasonable for us. With the cost of raising kids and deployments, we feel 2 is plenty of us!

I personally think having a little doubt is normally. It seems to happen to everyone I know who does it. We all come through just fine.

Best of luck! 

Liz~*Celebrating Home *~ --- 5 years ago -

I always knew I wanted more than 2. I found out last month I was pregnant with number 3 and I have this peace about it being my last. I have read numerous times about people knowing they were done and I didnt know how they could know that, now I do :) 

Amurikan Lunatic --- 5 years ago -

 

jallyse --- 5 years ago -

My cousin gave me awesome advice 2 years ago when I was thinking about getting my tubes tied. I know Im done having kids. Medically I shouldnt anyway, but she said, "What until you are 40 yrs old. If you dont want kids by then, then get them tied. That way you dont have any regrets about getting it done too soon." Her mom told her that, and she listened and the day after her bday she went in. She has NO regrets but is extremely happy that she waited. 

Maureen --- 5 years ago -

I don't think we would physically or monetarily be able to care for another baby/child without being strapped for cash. Ive always wanted a little girl, but honestly I wouldn't know what to do with a girl! 

shizzlemydizzle --- 5 years ago -

Why the heck are you the one getting the surgery?


I had my tubes tied because I was done having children.

1) My girlie bits had congenital defects.

2)I suffered more than one miscarriage and didn't want to go through another.

3)It was the best option for us because I had a c-section and the Dr. did it when I gave birth to our last child. 

Northernpeach --- 5 years ago -

I will never, ever do that! He can do it.

her husband is the one getting it.. not her. 


Thanks haha NOT me... HIM ;) And i don't want to wait till I'm 40 lol, I have so many issues on every birth control possible. And we just really don't want to have more.. Would take buying a bigger car when we just bought a new one, and moving and deploying again.. I just don't want more then two 

Barbie --- 5 years ago -

Why the heck are you the one getting the surgery?


I had my tubes tied because I was done having children.

1) My girlie bits had congenital defects.

2)I suffered more than one miscarriage and didn't want to go through another.


3)It was the best option for us because I had a c-section and the Dr. did it when I gave birth to our last child.


Those were my reasons too but the deal breaker for me was the doctor telling me 9 out of 10 of my children would be born with the same medical issues. I already suffered the loss of our first and was watching my son being life flighted to San Diego and made the decision with out talking to my husband (he was already on his way to my son). At first he was upset (he wanted a big family) but then quickly realized we had number 10 and didn't want her to have to watch another brother or sister pass. Thankfully my son made it and I have 2 beautiful living babies, a boy and girl. 

Taminator --- 5 years ago -

I gave birth and realized it REALLY HURTS and knew I dont want any other children. I ♥ having an only child. 

kikomon --- 5 years ago -

After my 4th I knew I was done! I have had kids since i was 16 and now im 30 so Iv put in my time and have many years to go! Me and my husband got snipped. Good luck. 

Momma2Fur --- 5 years ago -

My husband had his done when our youngest was 2. I nearly had a nervous breakdown when they called him back to start the procedure. I had to walk out and catch my breath. I definitely went through the "what ifs" moment at that time. I think I even cried that night and felt a sort of disconnect and void for a few weeks after.

It's been 5 years since and after the first year I knew it was the right decision. I don't need to have more kids, I need to make sure I spend enough time with the ones I already have. And in our family, I always stay home until the youngest starts school no matter what. I didn't want to spend another 5 years at home on top of what I was already set to do. I was ready for me. College, work etc... and I knew the more kids I had, the more it would be pushed back. (And the more unlikely my dreams would happen, financially speaking.)

It's a personal decision, but I don't think it's uncommon to feel those last moment "what ifs". Just go with your heart. If it's not the right time, reschedule. 

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