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Is your husband like this??

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HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Do any of your hubby's get really really upset over spilled milk? Not literally...but like dumb things?

Mine does and it's so irritating!! Am I alone on this one? 

Vod Kaknockers --- 10 years ago -

Do any of your hubby's get really really upset over spilled milk? Not literally...but like dumb things?

Mine does and it's so irritating!! Am I alone on this one?


My hubby gets mad over stupid things all the time. I just ignore him. 

BellaLaVie --- 10 years ago -

My hubby gets mad over stupid things all the time. I just ignore him. 

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He usually ends up apologizing for having an attitude as well. 

Pink Taco --- 10 years ago -

YES ALL THE DAMN TIME!!!! UGH! 

MommaNanny --- 10 years ago -

Yes. Then he apologizes. He gets like that when he is stressed out from work. 

*ShinyCandy* --- 10 years ago -

Mine does to but its from his PTSD :( 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

How do you guys handle it? He is so mean when he's in this mood. I had to leave, so I'm gonna go to the gym cuz he stresses me out, and makes me cry 

Vod Kaknockers --- 10 years ago -

How do you guys handle it?

I ignore him, or I'll toss him a bottle of Midol! 

cazzfla --- 10 years ago -

Ignore him. Recruiting duty makes my husband a huge ass sometimes, but I just go on with my day. 

accountnickname --- 10 years ago -

Only very rarely. I get worked up over things much more often than he does, but I am emotional where he is analytical. I don't think I could deal with an emotional man. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

His isn't even work related! It's literally stupid crud like dropping toast on the floor...his day will be ruined, he wont want to make another one or anything. He will pout and start bringing me down as a wife. So today I ignored him, went off to the gym...

I thought I was the one with mass hormones right now! Sheesh... 

KnightRider --- 10 years ago -

My husband does too. Its the Irish side of him. He gets super upset really fast. I just tell him in a calm voice that its ok and that he should walk away and come back when he's calmer. Guys need us to keep them grounded, I think its in our nature to be the more collective ones. But if he starts bringing you down I would leave too. Its better to remove yourself from the situation so you both don't say something in the heat of the moment. Then later when you come back just tell him how you understand that he was upset but it wasn't your fault and it hurt you when he said the things he did. 

rebel101 --- 10 years ago -

All of the time, especially if work just sucked for him that day. Over time I have learned to be able to tell when he has had a bad day that day. Usually I just let him have some time to himself for about two hours, that way he has time to clear his mind. After that he is just as happy as when he left the house that morning. 

YouReallyThinkSo --- 10 years ago -

Havingaboy, my husband does it too. Its anxiety, at least for my husband it is. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Anxiety would make sense...I'd love for him to go see someone and maybe get meds or something to help calm him.

I do worry because of a new baby...and wondering how he will respond to crying at 2am 

YouReallyThinkSo --- 10 years ago -

Some on here recommended a supplement called Gabba for anxiety. My husband tried it and it didnt seem to work for him, but the person who posted it swears by it. You can get it just about anywhere. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Hm. I'll have to look into that! 

CharlieWhiskey2 --- 10 years ago -

Eh.
Some times when he is SUPER stressed about work or something else has been bothering him for a few days (usually work related as well), he tries to yell at me over dumb stuff. I yell back at him and tell him he's being insane then he stops and apologizes.
It's one of those things. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

You ladies are lucky. I don't get apologies! I think I spoil him too much cuz I never say anything about his attitude to him. I usually just ignore it, but leaving yesterday and working out was so nice! What a stress reducer! I'm def gonna have to leave and work out whenever he does that. 

ooorah69P --- 10 years ago -

If he's been deployed to Iraq or A'Stan it could be a symptom of PTSD. It could also be stress from work, an upcoming inspection or deployment as well. If it's really that bad, he may need some help.

On the other hand there's seven days out of the month when you ladies aren't exactly easy to live with either LOL. ;) 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Lol I'm preggers so I don't have those right now. And when that time does come I'm not the moody type. I have a lot of patience and not an angry bone in my body. He has been on one deployment already and has one coming up in a month or so. 

champatlife --- 10 years ago -

He has been on one deployment already and has one coming up in a month or so.

is he always this irratic or just recently? Maybe he's having anxiety about leaving you and the kid, and without knowing it trying to seperate himself from you, so it'll be "easier" on himself when he's not there for all the baby's firsts, etc. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Champ...that makes a lot of sense!! Because in the beginning he was obsessed with my tummy but the closer it gets to March the more uninterested he is. He felt kicks and high fives this weekend and was like numb to it. Didn't care one bit. I get so giddy about them, but he's just like whatever about them. 

sheBERRY --- 10 years ago -

Hmmm... He has an upcoming deployment, and as if that isnt enough, a baby on the way that he wont see until months after it's born. Id be pretty on edge as well. Detachment is a classic coping mechanism. Its WAY easier to deal with deploying if you're not emotionally attached. 

Alisa --- 10 years ago -

It is common for them to distance themselves and push people away when they are nearing a deployment. Most times I don't think they even realize they are doing it. With my husband it felt like every 10 mins he was going off about something. I ended up getting some info from family team building about pre-deployment stress and gave it to him. After that point anytime he tried starting a fight I would tell him I am not going to spend these last few weeks fighting and I am not going to let him push me away. There is a lot they go through before a deployment and showing them your a stable safe place that they can rely on helps (at least I think it does). Just keep loving him and realize this is the deployment and not him. 

HavingaBOY --- 10 years ago -

Okay. Thank you!! :) idk why I didn't even think about that... 

sleepingbeauty --- 10 years ago -

I guess I am the only lucky one here or my husband is not from this planet,that is what one of my friends used to said..My husband rarely never ever gets mad,and if he is mad we just talk,he never raise his voice,when he had a bad day at work i guess he kicked the tires of his truck before he gets home or something because he always have a smile for us and a kiss and ask about our day etc,he is the sweetest thing in the world,he is also very funny,he is a great guy,we had been 9 yrs together ladies... but I just want to share that,that my love is never been an a-hole 

AussieGirl --- 10 years ago -

^^ Mine too :) 

Pink Taco --- 10 years ago -

I guess I am the only lucky one here or my husband is not from this planet,that is what one of my friends used to said..My husband rarely never ever gets mad,and if he is mad we just talk,he never raise his voice,when he had a bad day at work i guess he kicked the tires of his truck before he gets home or something because he always have a smile for us and a kiss and ask about our day etc,he is the sweetest thing in the world,he is also very funny,he is a great guy,we had been 9 yrs together ladies... but I just want to share that,that my love is never been an a-hole

You have a perfect man, you are sooooo lucky!!! 

champatlife --- 10 years ago -

my husband just gets stink faces, funny one day he did it after I had mentioned something and I got mad (it was at unexplainable moment) and he's like, "i smushed my finger that's why I made that face" I told him if his face didn't always look like that I would know when he hurts himself and not just over reacting per usual with his stink face. 

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