So, my husband wants me and our friends wife to move off base together when our husbands take off...

I will be in the 3rd trimester when my husband leaves, and will have to move our entire house by myself...into a new home off base so we can save more because there is a good chance this deployment will be a year long.

Now get this, he wants us to move BACK onto base the month before they get home...so with a new baby :) I kind of want to beat him right now...and THEN he will be taking off to go to school so we will be moving again. All this moving just seems very pointless to me, and have a feeling its going to make things harder than they need to be while hes gone.

Any input? lol... 

I would tell him everything you just posted here. 

it pointless lol.

After I had LO I got really sick and moved home, 2 hours north. Then after about 4 months I was A-ok and moved back. Now we have orders and are moving in Jan to Miramar. I am ready to pull my hair out and my son will have lived in 4 houses before he hits 1 year 

Why is he suggesting what YOU do when he's gone? I am not trying to sound like a B. Im genuinely curious.
If *I* was pregnant and my husband told me to move a house (not once, but twice!!), Id tell him where to put it. BUT... Im not a very nice pregnant person. 

Because our lease is up after he leaves. Otherwise he said we would do it when he is still here.

I told him that I am hiring movers and not doing a dang thing if i have to do this lol 

Okay, I really hope i dont come across as a B..But!

1) He seems as if he is selfish and only thinking about himself NOT you or his unborn child
2) He should NOT tell YOU what YOU should do..
3) Stand up for yourself and tell him how stupid and crazy it is to live with someone you hardly know.. pregnant.. and doing it all alone
4) No matter a year long or not you will be pregnant and having the child with a room mate thats crazy yall are married and having a family
5) Why not stay where yall are at becasue yall just moved not even long ago like waht 2 months ago? if i remember correctly and focus on YOU and the baby.. and once the baby is born you are in the comfort of your OWN home and dont have someone else living there
6) Roomates = DRAMA 

Honestly I would just renew the lease. Having close contact with someone (roommate) while your husbands are deployed will be crazy. If she doesn't get a call and you do she will wonder why and vice versa for you, you guys will be comparing things the whole time.It may not happen to you but it happens a lot with a deployment buddy and it can get nerve wrecking for the both of you. Also, with a newborn and being a first time mom things will be extemely stressful for you. Therefore, I hope she understands the demand and change you will possibly go through when the baby arrives. 

And most people that dont have a child wont understand the point of getting up every 2 hours.. and im sure will be very annoyed when she is not getting any sleep while your child is screaming and crying every 2 hours. 

If I were you, I'd tell hubby to find something and suck it. 

Why not move to a part of housing that is offering concessions? Than you can still live by yourself and get extra money. Living with someone else specially when you are about to pop and have a newborn will be no fun. Plus you never really know how some people handle deployments. You think you know someone tell there hubby is gone and then they become a different person. 

Why not move to a part of housing that is offering concessions?

WHy when i thought they just moved to Stuart Mesa and have a 3 bedroom when they qualify for 2.. they have a great deal.. i say suck it up and relax and tell your husband to stick it where the sun dont shine. 

It's easy say NO. It's not like he can fly back and move you himself.

Some people emphasis "saving money" entirely too much and quality of life suffers. 

Some people emphasis "saving money" entirely too much and quality of life suffers.

1000000% agree... 

I moved when my husband deployed and moved back a month before he came home. But we moved out a few days before he deployed so HE (and friends) did the moving. When I moved back, I hired a couple guys to move my heavy stuff and my parents helped out with the rest (and my mom watched the kids) 

Hokey but you didn't have a roommate. I think it would be different if she was moving with family or by herself. I agree with Donny the one reason for her moving out isn't a good idea/choice on her husbands part being that she's pregnant and will be doing things by herself. 

I agree with everyone else. You're pregnant! And having a room mate, regardless if they're your friend or not, sucks. He will be deployed, so while I understand the notion that you will save more money by rooming with your girlfriend, you have to consider that you're not under normal circumstances. You're pregnant and by the time he's almost home, you will be dealing with a new born. Adding another move into that scenario will suck majorly. Just try to talk him out of it and remind him of the reasons why you don't like the idea. 

agree with everyone too.
pointless.

Some people emphasis "saving money" entirely too much and quality of life suffers.

1000000% agree...
X2 

I have told him...he doesnt really care, and wants the exra 7,000 saved up. SO now I am thinking about maybe moving home w my mom, so we have NO rent...but then I wont have a job either, at least here I can stick w the temp agency and get some income. So we will see! Hopefully unemployment comes thro, ive been paying into it since i was 16 lol id like to use it when i need it. 

He doesn't really care,
Then why ask? Sound like he doesn't care much about you or the baby's health. 

well he just informed me he wants to find a place for 900/month for us two girls to split...

is it an appropriate time to hit him with a frying pan? 

He sounds like he is only looking at the money potential, rather then you having a baby and having to move again when he comes back. If anything, tell him you will only move unless it is with your parents. 

Get a back bone and tell him you do not want to move if that's how you really feel. If you are planning on working or drawing unemployment just save your checks and the extra money he will make. Something is better than nothing. 

Sounds like he makes all the decisions so there isn't much else to talk about.

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I have lived with roomates while my husband was deployed and it totally sucked. It was nice alaways having someone around but we couldn't agree on how billls were paid. It completly ruined our friendship with those people.

I have also done the whole moving multiple times in a short time span. We moved on base and then my husband got orders 2 months later (we had no idea he was getting transferred when we moved). I wasn't pregnant and don't have kids but it was hell. I have moved pretty much every year since I was 9 and am used to moving but I was so drained after all that. I can't even imagine being prego and doing it lol.

He will be getting more money anyways for being deployed. It may not be as much if you were to move and pocket the BAH, but it is still enough to put in savings. Honestly with all that moving you will probably spend more than you would have saved if you just stayed put.

Whatever you decide, good luck! Congrats on the baby too! :) 

What if its not a yr long deployment? Are you all going to live in a teeny tiny apt together? For $900 that is what you will get, something tiny. Tell him if you move, it will be somewhere nice and you will stay put when he gets back.