My mom & I don't talk, she's a borderline and if you don't know what it is google borderline personality disorder. Anyway she has texted twice trying to send my husband (she met once before we were married & at our wedding) care packages. I ignored her texts twice, now she's having her lesbian friend send me emails! If u want a laugh I'll be glad to post the email 

I understand your mother is mentally ill, but what if she's just trying to do something nice for your husband? And you're making fun of her? Ouch. 

My mom has issues too & we don't get along but if she was trying to do something nice for my husband I wouldn't be so mean about it.
I think you should be happy that she's trying. 

My mom has issues too & we don't get along but if she was trying to do something nice for my husband I wouldn't be so mean about it.
I think you should be happy that she's trying. 

Maybe its a step in the right direction i agree with Azbound 

Give her the benifit of doubt. Maybe she really IS trying to do something nice to show she does care. 

Her daughter sounds nice.... 

Her daughter sounds nice.... 

LOL 

I'm thinking there is a hidden agenda. He doesn't need her writing him to cause drama. Also I am nice, u have no idea what it's like to have a mother like this. Seen the movie mommy dearest?

On another note I wasn't making fun of her, I was having a laugh at the email she had a total stranger send me....never saw grammar etc that bad. 

Having a difficult mother is hard on you, but its gotta be hard on her too! Im sure she would rather be "normal" as if that even exist now days. So here is my suggestion: Why not have her mail you the package for your husband and then you can check it to make sure there is no drama added to it? Thats what I would do. 

Sweetchecks no one knows what she is like but you. I chose to not have anything to do with my biological mother. People can stand on the outside and judge all they want but in the end its your choice. My biological mom doesn't even have my number the couple times my brother thought he would share it I changed my number. You do what you have to for your family. Good luck. 

nice, southern twang, that's a great idea. My mother in law is borderline as well, and my husband won't speak to her, so that responsibility is left to me. We have only visited her in TX twice since my husband and I met four years ago. She was at our wedding, and had hidden agendas for being at our wedding. yeah. Anyway, there are times when she tries to do the right thing, even if it is for alterior motives, (buying our affection) and I try to be nice. So far, so good, and our relationship with her is a distant one, but not one with many arguments. At least my husband isn't a momma's boy... I have friends with monster in laws, who's husbands are attached at the hip even when their mothers insult and treat their wives like crud. My husband is not like that, so I am very thankful that he and I are so devoted to each other.

Anywho, I agree with Southern Twang. Have her send you the package, and just tell her that you aren't supposed to give out his location, (confidentiality or something) and tell her you will send it for her. My hubs and I have decided that when we have kids, we aren't letting her around them often (she is manipulative and malicious and children don't know how to let stuff like that roll off them) anyway, when she sends our future kids stuff, we plan to just check it first. 

The responsibility lies within the mother! Even if it's hard for her, you wouldn't feel bad for a diabetic who didn't take their meds& chose to have things they knew they shouldn't. Most people have had difficult situations but some of us take responsibility & go through thearpy or whatever it is in order to not become or be like those who have abused us. I made the decission not to have contact because I don't need the drama & she refuses to get help.

YRTS thank you ;) 

Ok, what I don't understand is why you had to mention that her friend is a lesbian...what does that have to do with anything? 

To me family is family..no matter how "crazy" or ill they are or how you think they should spend their money or live their life..to each their own..its the thought that counts..no matter how much my family has gone threw or how much i thing one is nuts i still love them unconditionaly..they are family..you only get one...
but to each their own..thats jmo :) 

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Ok, what I don't understand is why you had to mention that her friend is a lesbian...what does that have to do with anything? 

Nothing at all my mom is too 

Mental disorders aren't fun. A lot of people take sanity for granted. I wouldn't wish a mental disorder on my worst enemy. I have a mom who is bipolar with regular manic depression episodes and shes an addict. Our relationship is based on tough love. The tables are turned and I'm more of the mom figure, but it helps me sleep at night with a clear conscience.

If she's vindictive, that's one thing but you shouldn't shove her aside for not getting help. For some people, they are so far gone that making the right choice can be so tough.

JMO. 

To me family is family..no matter how "crazy" or ill they are or how you think they should spend their money or live their life..to each their own..its the thought that counts..no matter how much my family has gone threw or how much i thing one is nuts i still love them unconditionaly..they are family..you only get one...


Oh I don't believe in blood being thicker than water, especially since my mother had no problem inviting over the man who molested me. I gues it's hard for people of other families to understand that enough is enough.