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My Ex-husband Vandalized my car last night....

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MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

So...while me and Andrew we in our home last night, my ex husband decided to take it upon himself to take of my dod decals and tried to take off my license plate.

Im really creeped out... Those tags on my car were there for a few years they actually expire in October anyways. I remarried and Andrew is my sponser. But i don't think my ex can handle that.

he is in a relationship (with the same girl he cheated on me with) so why does he continue to harass me???

The car was always mine but we put it in his name when we were married, and he signed it back over to me when we filed our divorce. Its been over a year but he still won't leave me alone.

I'll get random texts from anonymous emails saying really hurtful things to me. I just don't get it. I've moved on and I'm happy. He is in a relationship will randomly email me telling me things him and his girlfriend did the previous weekend yet he comes to my house and see's i have tags on my car and decides to take them off? Along with my license plate?

Why in the world can't he just leave me alone??
My husband and I are moving on base hopefully very soon. I dont even know how he got this address Im just worried he'll do something next time... I've filed a report but the police never do anything.

Sorry i just needed to vent... In all honesty im freaked out and feel violated. Its just really creepy!!! 

AJx2 --- 11 years ago -

The police cant do anything unless you get a restraining order or they catch him in the act of the vandalism. 

catalinawinemixerr --- 11 years ago -

File a report, change your phone number, park in the garage, move somewhere else so he won't know where you live. Start documenting everything so in the future if you need to get a restraining order on him. 

MylilZombie --- 11 years ago -

get a restraining order if you have proof he's done this along with harassing email then get a restraining order then the police WILL do something 

CluelessWonder --- 11 years ago -

I'm sorry that that happened to you. Luckily neither you or your husband were injured but it can still be a horrible shock to the mind when you think you are safe from something and it turns out you're not. My mother divorced my father 8 years ago and still tries to harass her when he calls and constantly mentions her to his girlfriend (they have a child together). We used to have a restraining order against him and he broke into our house and would stalk us around town, going as far as jumping into our car at red lights and refusing to get out.

I hope that he grows up and leaves you alone before things get out of hand. =/

Save all the e-mails and gather up any other evidence you can get so that you have a back up when asking for a restraining order or something. Be very careful who to talk to and say things to also, you never know how he is getting his info. 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

Yea i know that. Its just one of those things were he always gets away with everything he does. Theres nothing i can do to stop him from harassing me. 

MrsMeys --- 11 years ago -

Go to the courthouse and get a restraining order and CALL THE POLICE EVERY SINGLE TIME HE VIOLATES IT!! 

MrsMeys --- 11 years ago -

Theres nothing i can do to stop him from harassing me

I used to feel the same way about my ex. I got a restraining order and he ended up spending 6 months in jail for stalking me, making death threats and violating the restraining order. The system will work for you if you use it and really stick to it and call EVERY time, every call, every text, every email, everything! 

MylilZombie --- 11 years ago -

Yea i know that. Its just one of those things were he always gets away with everything he does. Theres nothing i can do to stop him from harassing me. 

yes there is, GET A RESTRAINING order. i've been in and out of court 6x this past year and the horror stories i have heard b/c of the women saying their ex's got away with everything and harassed them, it took them physically being in danger or being threatened to go and get a restraining order. it doesn't hurt to try, don't wait til your put in harms way to do it. obviously he's not stopping and he may get worse. for your safety and peace of mind you should at least try. 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

Ive had to get a restraining order once against one of his ex girlfriends. she would show up at my work, shes egged my sisters business, slit my tire, threatened me on Myspace, posted fake naked pictures of me that looked real.. It wasn't until she came to my house while my ex was deployed and shut off the breaker (it was outside of my house) and started knocking on the windows. My roommate called the police we got a picture of her car parked next to my roommates, and THEN they gave me a restraining order against her.

I've talked to his command and they wont help me. I just want him to leave me alone. he's got me all paranoid now.

I wish there was more i could do, but there's not enough to get a restraining order against him.

I dont tell many people where i live. So im really not sure how he found out. 

AJx2 --- 11 years ago -

Theres nothing i can do to stop him from harassing me

Yes there is. Get a restraining order. The requirements for a temporary are very lax. If he challenges it thats when you need to bring the evidence to the courts. The only reason he is still doing this is because you are letting him. 

MylilZombie --- 11 years ago -

just wondering how do u know he's the one who did it to your car then? 

AJx2 --- 11 years ago -

but there's not enough to get a restraining order against him.

So you have gone into the courts and filled out the forms and talked to the judge? Because that is the only way to know that you don't have enough, is for the judge to tell you that. 

TexasWife1087 --- 11 years ago -

pile up the evidence everytime he come around and does something take pics and write it down with time and everything i know what your going through i had a stalker too and it took the system a while to do something just be careful dont go any where alone and if you cant avoid it carry pepper spray or a taser just in case he gets brave and does something stupid you never know especially if he is doing this kinda stuff the more evidence you have the better and keep positive just remember that every time he does something its going to hurt him more... 

tuckersmama --- 11 years ago -

You need to get a surveillance camera and have it running from your front wndow. You will be able to catch him on tape if he ever comes on your propert. Print out all the emails, texts, etc. 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

just wondering how do u know he's the one who did it to your car then?

because he emailed me the other day telling me to "take those damn decals off my car!"

Only way he could have known they were still on there way to drive by my house. (He doesn't know Andrew and I are married, I don't tell him anything about our relationship.)

I just didn't feel I had too since Andrew is my husband he is my sponsor. Plus anytime we take my car on base, he is always the one driving. Not to mention anyone ever tried to take them off? I tried once and It was not coming off! lol 

MylilZombie --- 11 years ago -

wait so ur ex-husbands decals are still on your car? if so you do realize your husband can get decals on your car and the decals should've come off after the divorce anyway. your not supposed to have them b/c he isnt the owner of the car and your not in the military and yes they suck to get off but you have to scrape them off.

either way if he did it and you have no proof other than an email bring it to the police with the report and file to get a restraining order 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

I didnt know that. That is good to know. And I did try to get them off but i gave up. I rarely would drive on base myself. Its usually Andrew driving so it wasnt that I even needed or used the stickers. Regardless though he didnt have the right to touch my car esp fold my license plate in half. Its almost like he wanted me to know he was there.

Im going to take your guy's advice and try to get a restraining order against him. He needs to stay away from me. 

CourtesyFlush --- 11 years ago -

They can't do anything unless you catch him doing stuff. 

PrestigeWorldwide --- 11 years ago -

And I did try to get them off but i gave up.

Use a razor blade or something like it. 

MylilZombie --- 11 years ago -

he didnt have the right to touch my car esp fold my license plate in half. Its almost like he wanted me to know he was there.

your right he doesnt have the right to do that i was just letting you know about the decals. I really do hope you get the restraining order but even if they dont give you one keep ALL evidence of his harassment and defacing your property. like someone else suggested get a security camera so you have video evidence. the more he harasses you the bigger hole he digs so you can get a restraining order. i wish you the best of luck 

ALS MommaKitty --- 11 years ago -

They can't do anything unless you catch him doing stuff.

Actually in this state harassing e-mails and texts are illegal and are grounds alone for a restraining order. 

CourtesyFlush --- 11 years ago -

I had a restraining order against a friends ex. Unless they threaten your life, they don't do much. It may be illegal...doesn't mean they'll do anything about it. 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

Use a razor blade or something like it.



doesnt matter now he already took them off lol

Actually in this state harassing e-mails and texts are illegal and are grounds alone for a restraining order.

The emails I have are usually sent from a website that sends anonymous texts. but noone else that i know would say the things he says to me or use certain words that he uses. he's smart. He plays head games. Almost like he's trying to scare me. 

MrsCrystalS --- 11 years ago -

t may be illegal...doesn't mean they'll do anything about it.
thats what bothers me. ITS ILLEGAL but unless im in a life threatening situation they wont do anything. 

IrishMaiden --- 11 years ago -

If you aren't already, make sure to save every communication between the two of you. Print it out, put it in a safe place. Write down instances where he's violated your privacy and acted inappropriately. Keep detailed records. If he does something terrible, you want to make sure you have as much evidence as possible. Lock your doors, windows, ect. Change your e-mail and phone number. Park in the garage. Keep yourself safe! I'm sorry he's acting so immature. Keep your chin up. :) 

IrishMaiden --- 11 years ago -

And don't let him know it bothers you. It gives him the satisfaction of getting to you and causing you pain. Do everything in your power to distance yourself. If you've truly moved on, it won't be a problem... 

ALS MommaKitty --- 11 years ago -

t may be illegal...doesn't mean they'll do anything about it.
thats what bothers me. ITS ILLEGAL but unless im in a life threatening situation they wont do anything.


But the difference being if there is a legal restraining order on a Marine, the corps WILL do something about it. I would get the order, make sure to notify his command when you do. 

Just Sayin --- 11 years ago -

But the difference being if there is a legal restraining order on a Marine, the corps WILL do something about it

If he's in a weapon-centered MOS the Lautenberg Act will come into play and until this issue is settled he will be barred from training with weapons/touching/anything having to do with weapons since this will be a dometic violence RO if it goes through (unless he doesn't work with them at all). 

julie --- 11 years ago -

Do you have children together? If not i would change my number so he could no longer text. I would also change my email or block him. Make it so there is no way that he can get in contact with you. 

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