I have a gf who is about to file for divorce.This divorce is a mutual between the both of them.They live on base,She does not want to give up the house right now because she needs to figure out where she is going to live when she leaves.There is a child involved.I need to know while living in the house on base will she be given any of his pay? What should her next step be? I went through a divorce no kids involved and I recieved half BAH because I moved home so my circumstance's where alot different.Any advice would be great! FYI both husband and wife did nothing wrong they have both grown apart due to family issues such as death. 

.I need to know while living in the house on base will she be given any of his pay

If they are getting divorced she cannot live in base housing unless they are just seperated but not legally.

She won't be "given" any of his pay unless it's court ordered, then it will be deducted from his pay if he neglects to pay up. 

If they are getting divorced she cannot live in base housing unless they are just seperated but not legally.

Thank you I didnt know those rules bc I left and went home the day we split up I needed my family out east. 

I don't think she can stay in housing while they are going through a divorce. One of my neighbors had to move 30 days from the filing date of her divorce paperwork. 

I don't think she can stay in housing while they are going through a divorce. One of my neighbors had to move 30 days from the filing date of her divorce paperwork.


I thought it was 30 days after it was final? 

What should her next step be?

Start getting her life together. Get a new job, maybe move closer to family where she has support. You said it was mutual so there shouldn't be as much emotional drama between the two adults so that's good. 

Can't she stay in housing till the divorce is final?? Also, she can go to court to get child support ordered and I'm not sure about pay. 

I thought it was 30 days after it was final? 

I did too until I read the notice she received from housing. It was also a bitter ugly situation. 

Then if they move out of housing wouldn't she get the BAH?? Or something?? Till the divorce is final.. 

divorce is final??

The understanding I got and I am not sure if it varies but based on the letter from housing that I physically read she (a neighbor) had 30 days from the date the papers were filed to be vacated. Basically once the marine leaves you need to leave too because your house is a privilege of your marriage to a marine, not for having a family necessarily. I could be wrong but the letter was pretty firm and clear that once the marine was gone she needed to get out too. 

I'm just trying to remember what I've read here before since we seem to get a lot of these kind of threads. 

I always thought the same thing until her situation. 

The only pay she would be entitled to once they move out of housing would be the difference between single rate BAH and the with dependent rate. Unless it is court ordered, that is all she gets.

ETA: That is until the divorce is final and he goes back to single rate. Then she gets nothing. 

Well regardless, wish her the best from me. I can only imagine how difficult it is and children make it that much harder. Many prayers for them. 

She will get child support if it's ordered.. 

Well she gets nothing unless they order alimony. The child gets the support. 

Yes the child gets the support, but the money will be given to the mother to use to care for the child. 

if the divorce is civil he doesn't have to put in the 30 days and he could let her live there but he is not obligated to give her anything else.. 

Just talk to base legal, the Chaplain and the FRO. They will tell you what you need to know. Some things can be taken care of by his command. The FRO and Chaplain can point you in the right direction. 

Thank you ladies so much,She hasnt filed yet bc we have told her make sure she has her ducks in a row due a child being involved.This past yr there has been 6 deaths in their family and a lose of a baby and its been to much for them to handle and they are doing what they feel is best for the both and their son. 

It really depends too. I have seen different things for different couples so. I do wish them the best though.