So my husband got back from deployment less than a month ago & everything seemed fine. Well out of the blue I get a phone call from...HIS GIRLFRIEND!!! Apparently, he's been seeing this woman for a year & they were on ship together. Anyway, here's where I need your help...I have her name & know she's in the Navy. How I can find out where she works? I didn't give a shit about what happened to this woman, but for whatever reason, she won't leave me alone. I already kicked him out & I'm pretty sure he ran to her, so I don't know what her deal is. Him & I had agreed that if he would give me enough money for the kids (we have 3) that I wouldn't file for divorce until he finished DI school, but today I check the bank account & all he left in there was $400 (until whenever he decides to give me more) for all the bills, groceries, gas, daycare, car pmts, etc. I work, but I don't get enough hours right now to support all 4 of us by myself, & I don't think I should have to. He also tried to take practically EVERYTHING in our house while I was at work. So basically, he's a POS & I need him to know, when it comes to my kids, I mean business! 

Give me the name and I can look her up in the system. 

maybe someone on here will be willing to look on MOL for you ( i think you can look up Navy on there idk tho) haha El Doosho you beat me to it 

Wow, sounds like a real winner. 

doosho will look it up for you 

Wow, sounds like a real winner. Yeah, he's real special *sarcasm* 

doosho will look it up for you pimpin me out? 

pimpin me out? of course 

& all he left in there was $400 shoot I wish I got that. Im assuming your living in base housing?? If your working then how much can your bills really be? Although Daycare alone adds up. Not trying to be mean, I just HATE when women complain about child support because I have NEVER seen it, AND have a court order for it. And we aren't military therefor rent on top of every other bill imaginable. ok, Im done...didn't mean to change the subject, it just bothered me. 

This is a case where I would involve his command. 

If your working then how much can your bills really be? Daycare for 1 child alone is over $200, then I have to pay for the baby's daycare. The kids are in soccer, karate, & gymnastics & they love it. If we were tight on money for any other reason, I'd pull them out & explain what's going on, but for him to use that money and spend it on her...no way I'm letting him do that to our kids. 

This is a case where I would involve his command. I didn't want to do that, but at this point, I feel like that's my only option. 

Daycare for 1 child alone is over $200, then I have to pay for the baby's daycare. The kids are in soccer, karate, & gymnastics & they love it. If we were tight on money for any other reason, I'd pull them out & explain what's going on, but for him to use that money and spend it on her...no way I'm letting him do that to our kids. true, the kids shouldn't suffer and their life be completely changed so THEY can date. I hear ya. But you get where Im coming from when sooo many woman bi@tch about money and really its because they are shopaholics. Poor kids, thats the hardest. 

He is screwing over your kids. I've never gone to a command and I wouldn't but in this case I would. 

you need to just file for divorce, dont trust him for anything. let the military decide what to deduct each month. 

Yeah, the way I see it, I was being nice (when I didn't have to be) about waiting til he was done in school, but if he wants to be an a$$hole, then he's gonna get what's coming to him. 

you get where Im coming from when sooo many woman bi@tch about money and really its because they are shopaholics. Yeah I completely understand what you mean 

Not trying to be mean, I just HATE when women complain about child support because I have NEVER seen it, AND have a court order for it. And we aren't military therefor rent on top of every other bill imaginable. ok, Im done...didn't mean to change the subject, it just bothered me. Ok I really don't get why this comment was made. Just becuase you are not getting what you were court ordered to get doesn't mean that other people who deserve the same thing should just "get over it". While I get that complaining will probably not do much, I would bet that when you were going through probably some of the same things that she is in regards to support that you were upset and complaining to.(not that I really think she is complaining to me it seems like she is looking for info) This is the reason that I just don't get women, even being one myself, becuase you don't get something for whatever reason that may be its ok to tell someone else to suck it up and deal with it. Whether she is in housing or not makes no difference, when they divorce she will lose that and is entitled to child support for her children, the same way that you are. Who gets it and who doesn't is really irrelevant, are you doing it on your own, probably. Will she do the same thing if she doesn't get it, probably but why it bothers you that she is "complaining" about it really makes no sense at all. Sorry for getting off topic and if that was mean, I'm OK with it. 

I agree with Jennifer...I don't understand why that comment was even made. She deserves child support, and if that douche isn't giving it to her she has the right to complain in my book. 

well Jennifer, READ. I wasn't being mean to her. I told her that no her kids shouldn't go without, but soooo many woman come on here and complain about money when they split. Women want the man to give them their whole paycheck WHILE living in base house (NOT AT ALL REFERING TO UNBELIEVABLE). Women want to punish the man for cheating, when in all reality, he needs to live too. She already cleared it up. I have no beef with her, and I already said... No the kids shouldn't have to stop their extra curricular activities so that dad and girlfriend can go on dates. She isn't of the norm, majority of woman going through seperation come on here and complain about money and him not giving them enough. I was just saying the holy heck $400 is awsome, but that is coming from someone who gets none thanks to the state of TX not following what CA says. 

I'm not asking for money to go get my nails done & buy a new Coach purse, lol. It's money that belongs to my kids, not her. I honestly dont care if he doesn't want to give me a dime, but don't try and take it away from the kids, they have no fault. Just thought I'd clear that up, lol 

what a douche bag 

soooo many woman come on here and complain about money when they split. Women want the man to give them their whole paycheck WHILE living in base house (NOT AT ALL REFERING TO UNBELIEVABLE). Women want to punish the man for cheating, when in all reality, he needs to live too. Yeah, but that wasn't the case so I just don't understand why the comment was made...I mean, it was obvious she didn't fit that situation, so why even make that comment? Not trying to bash you or anything, I'm just a little confused too as to why/how that even came up. 

I agree with Jennifer...I don't understand why that comment was even made. She deserves child support, and if that douche isn't giving it to her she has the right to complain in my book once again READ.....she said he gave her $400. Before she clarrified, it sounded like $400 wasn't good enough. In the real world most women don't even get $400 and that has to pay for EVERYTHING. 

It's money that belongs to my kids, not her. This part makes my blood boil for you...I agree 1000%, how could he? =( 

once again READ.....she said he gave her $400. Before she clarrified, it sounded like $400 wasn't good enough. In the real world most women don't even get $400 and that has to pay for EVERYTHING. forreals? My cousin's baby mama hit him up for $800, and that's the real world. Non military world. It's crazy b.c. the biatch had the nerve to ask for that much & got it too! 

once again READ.....she said he gave her $400. Before she clarrified, it sounded like $400 wasn't good enough. In the real world most women don't even get $400 and that has to pay for EVERYTHING.  No need to get all defensive and use CAPS lol. I read everything you wrote, however I also read in her initial post that she has 3 kids, $400 obviously isn't enough for 3 young children. 

In the real world most women don't even get $400 and that has to pay for EVERYTHING. And this is not always the case...just because this might be your situation doesn't mean it is the norm. I know plenty of civilian women divorced from civilian men with 3 kids that get much more than $400 in child support each month. Just thought I would point that out. 

in ca. the child support is based on his income, and how much time he spends with the kid. my brother pays 800 a month for 2 kids, and he only has them 2 times a week. he is a civilian. 

Yeah, but that wasn't the case so I just don't understand why the comment was made...I mean, it was obvious she didn't fit that situation, so why even make that comment? Not trying to bash you or anything, I'm just a little confused too as to why/how that even came up. how was it obvious she didn't fit that situation?? story line...man cheats, gets kicked out of home, posp living with gf, deposits $400 in her account. It wasn't until AFTER comment was made that she said about kids extra curriculums. There are 40 woman before her in that situation that HAVE complained about the money and you all jump down their backs telling them to get a job and spend less money and this and that. You act like what I said was sooo in left field. I wasn't being mean to her. I already told her that. I feel bad for her kids. Its not fair to them and as a motner thats hard because you want to make things the easiest and stress free for you kids.