so i kept my family on facebook and just updated my status to "relaxing with xxx xxx enjoying life so much and wouldnt have it any other way" when my mom and sisters start saying i shouldnt be happy because i left my ex husband and him beating me wasnt the worst thing to happen basically justifying him treating me like a human punching bag. so my significant other uses my profile to tell them that anyone who condones physical and mental abuse should evaluate themselves as a human being and that just makes them even more mad and says that me and the baby should have died. wtf!!!!!!!!! my own family wishing me dead and saying i deserved my miscarriage and my ex husband beating me to a bloody pulp several times!! can the human race go any lower?????? i know to delete them off facebook and i did but the damage is done!!! 

I bet the other side of this story sounds very very different. 

I hear you. My dad gave my ex permission to hit me. I felt so betrayed. Then they were pissed that i left him because he should have left me first. 

basia, yeah they would tell you a different story. when the case went to court they tried to lie to a lie detecter test but you obviously cant do that. they finally came clean and now boast about it. they think my ex husband is god and literally worship the ground he walks on!! 

Why would your family have to take a lie detector test in court? 

betty i was beaten to a bloody pulp. before we both joined the armed forces he hit me so much in the face i was almost unrecognizable. i didnt press charges because i was broke and at the time still thought he could change.....would change. but some people dont change. 

If you're looking for sympathy you won't get it from me. I don't feel bad for cheaters. 

If you didn't press charges the government would have.. just sayin. That's how it works. When you are in need of medical attention after abuse, the police are forced to take action without regard to whether or not the abused wants to. 

If this is a lie. It is a horrible lie and if it is you should be ashamed. 

the neighbors turned them in as accomplices and they agreed to a lie detector test to prove their innocence but if you are not innocent you cant prove it.

save your sympathy for someone who cares and wants it magi 

betty i was beaten to a bloody pulp. before we both joined the armed forces he hit me so much in the face i was almost unrecognizable. i didnt press charges because i was broke and at the time still thought he could change.....would change. but some people dont change.

That. Still does not make this ok either. 

If you didn't press charges the government would have.. just sayin. That's how it works. When you are in need of medical attention after abuse, the police are forced to take action without regard to whether or not the abused wants to.

very true

Why would you keep your family as friends after they took up for a man that beat you? If I was in that situation I would of cut ties with them a long time ago 

yes doo they did and thats when i finally spoke up. they questioned everyone, especially our neighbors since they had to call the police several times because of his yelling breaking stuff and trashing our property and the neighbors property. 

i had honestly forgotten i had them on facebook. i had been keeping certain things from them hidden like most info and most posts but tonight was a slip but thank goodness i did because now i dont have them on there anymore! 

save your sympathy for someone who cares and wants it magi 

O you didn't want sympathy? I'm sorry, I was confused by you talking about how you used to get beat and how your family said terrible things to you. I guess there was some other reason...? 

yes some other reason was to vent. what dont you understand about the word vent??? 

I knew I smelled a whore. 

I missed where she's cheating? Was it with her new boyfriend or the one that hit her?

Green Chick your link isn't working for me.

they had to call the police several times because of his yelling breaking stuff and trashing our property and the neighbors property.

I don't feel bad for people who stay after the first time. Pretty much just telling him he got away with it. 

i know cheating wasnt the best route to go but whats done is done. i am with the person i was meant to be with now. i have a new life, i am with someone who respects me and would never raise his hands at me! that is the best feeling in the world. if i could go back in time i would do so many things different but i cant so all i can do is move on and learn from my mistakes. 

Wow, so if this is a lie it's absolutely horrible and if it's true then I am so sorry just because doesn't matter if you cheat or not, no one deserves to be beaten. Period. 

She cheated on the abuser with a captain in the air force. And the link was a thread saying how happy she was to get divorced and go be with the guy she was having an affair with. 

barbie, i dont know why i stayed with him but im glad i was able to get away before it turned into more than just abuse, death. me being pregnant didnt stop him from hitting me. i was such a sick disgusting person for staying with him and cheating on him but i have toughened up and will be dmned if someone lays their hands on me again! what they say is true what doesnt kill you makes you stronger! 

yeah i worded my last thread wrong but whatever. i was so estatic! and just thinking of the better life waiting for me totally makes me forget about the stupid facebook drama with my family. i know you ladies see a lot of trolls but i am not one of them. i mainly come here when i feel overwhelmed and need a place to let some steam off. so in order to seem more untrolly hows everyones weekend? tomorrow bbqing at a friends place and drinking beers watching the sun go down! 

I feel like this would be on Jerry Springer.. 

Thanks for filling me in...

I'll never get why people cheat if you want to be with someone else then the love you should have for your spouse isn't there (or isn't enough). If it's not there then why stay?
Why someone would stay with a man who hits them is beyond me I don't know about you but I don't like getting beat up on. I had to deal with it for years from my father and the second I got a chance to get out I jumped on it! Being broke, walking around in clothes that hadn't been washed in a day was better then that. 

Here you go Barbie:

Akabi --- 22 days ago - quote - flag comment - hide comments

my divorce is over, i picked up rank in the air force and i get to marry the captain i was having an affair with!!!! yayy im so happy!!!!!


In her own words, she was having an affair.

Just out of curiosity OP was the baby your husband's? There is no excuse for abuse, but like I said before, being abused is not an excuse to have an affair either. 

yeah i worded my last thread wrong but whatever

I honestly doubt that. Only because who says they are having an affair if they aren't? 

Is the guy your with now the "friend with benefits that suddenly came back into your life"? 

Wow, so if this is a lie it's absolutely horrible and if it's true then I am so sorry just because doesn't matter if you cheat or not, no one deserves to be beaten. Period. 

x3 

Words can't express how upset i am that you would use this to get attention. It is a hard thing to live through and for you to lie about it for attention is despicable