I dont know where else to go to try and figure out what I should do. My husband's contract was un at the end of may last year. We moved back to our home state and started to get a life for our family in sept we welcomed our second child and was hoping that would help. Ever since we left Cali my husband has not been the same he cant handle the kids for more then 5 mins he cant sleep always on the xbox. He keeps saying that he wishes he was still in but knows that he cant go back. I dont know what to do. his family is no help they dont want anything to do with us or our kids cause his sister doesnt like him being married to me. I am losing my mind cause he wont work I go to work to have to quit a month in cause my youngest child (almost a year old) needs his attention more then what he can handle. He was never like this with our first child. 

It's obvious that something is really bothering him...are you sure that it's just that he wants to still be in the Marines but can't? You should sit down and ask him to be open with you because you are concerned about him. If he is always on the Xbox then he is trying to escape some part of his reality, you just have to figure out what that is, and if it's really just that he misses the Marines. Did he get back from a deployment not too long before his EAS? Would it maybe have something to do with that or some other experience? Just offering suggestions since it seems like there may be more bothering him. I can't really relate or help you in any other way, I'm sorry, but I hope this helps somewhat. Thoughts and prayers to you! 

He was suppose to go on deployment but was injuried during work ups and was taken off the deployment. that bothered him for a while more so after a buddy was killed during the deployment. He hated being in for the last year but just isnt him anymore. We have talked but he says its nothing I am going to take him to the local VA office and see if they can test him for ptsd or depression or see a theripst but cant push to hard cause he sometimes is quick to be defensive. He just doesnt see whats the point of doing anything anymore and the kids are starting to suffer. I want my husband back and our daughter wants her daddy back our son doesnt know the man he use to be and its sad! 

I had a similar situation with my husband. As soon as we moved to his home state it was as if he was a totally different person. Always on the xbox. He use to drink on occassion but it became a nightly thing. And has a short tolerance for the children.

I would suggest that you get him to contact your local VA. Even if its not to get help for this issue, he can at least register and be evaluated for service injuries (PTSD qualifies as one). If he reaches a certain rating he will be compensated (amount also depend on number of dependants). If moneys tight and you have to drive a ways to get to the nearest one check to see if they will cover your travel expenses and also some times pay for a hotel.

My husband was having flash backs and nightmares (something I was unaware of) but he would also want to drive and it was because he wanted to be in control incase of an ied. My husband didn't want to talk to me about his issues and it was not about not wanting to open up to me about it, it was because he didn't want me to know all that he had to deal with. This might be the case with your husband as well, so try to not take it personal.

And also he had a lot of guilt for being able to leave the military and go home while he had friends he lost in combat and friends who deployed again shortly after he got out.

I know I kinda rambled but I hope this will provide some help in any way. 

I just read your 2nd post. When we went to the VA it was for a post physical kind of deal they made no mention of bring up any mental issues. And they worked it into the evaluation in a non aggressive way. The psyciatrist that my husband talked to had only been back from his 3rd tour to Iraq for 2 months and it provided a common ground for him to open up a little more. And it seemed to help him to be able to get out more and started interacting with people again, he got into playing pool and bowling and met some veterans as well. 

I am wondering if its the seperation I know that PTSD is having to deal with a tramtic time but he has never deployed and was taken off the deployment on his birthday 5 days before the rest of the guy deployed. but he isnt the same and his family dont care about him only make him feel worthless and I am trying my hardest to get through this but I can only do it for so long till I have to put the kids first. I love him and that will never change. But he is becoming a stranger as time goes on. if I walk out I am scared of what it might do to him thats why I am trying to find out what to do seems like a few guys he was with for 4 years are having trouble too. they transistion into civi life is a crock of shit cause alot of men just become lost and not sure how to cope and its sad. 

Sounds like it might be depression. Getting checked out at the VA (for service injuries and a disability rating like the pp said) would be a good start. 

My husband was recently "diagnosed" with severe PTSD by his psychiatrist. For a long time he had problems with alcohol (it triggered intensely realistic flashbacks as if he was still in combat), very light sleeping and jerking awake many times during the night, he had a very short temper, and absolutely did not want to talk about anything that happened in afghanistan. He was constantly distancing himself, he was irritable most of the time, and very depressed.

He is being treated with medications which serves as an antipsychotic and antidepressant. This has helped soooooo much! If you can do anything, please encourage your husband to get psychiatric or psychological help. Once my husband was on the medication (we had to try a couple different ones to find the best fit), he has been very happy, has a positive outlook, and has opened up to me about some of the things he has experienced. Whatever you do don't be pushy, this will drive him away:(

PTSD is something you shouldn't ignore. Over time bottled up emotions and experiences may cause your husband to become more irritable and isolated. Try to get him to put the xbox away:) Once you address this problem, he will be happy to spend time bonding with his children and his wife, who I am sure misses him:)

I am a psych major, please encourage him to see a professional:)