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bigmamaperry --- 2 years ago -

i need help. my hubby is going to gone to yuma for train for his job. he is going to be gone for a month. i have heard stories that wives have been hurt or worse on bases because people have watched their daily lives unfold in front of them. i am scared to be by myself. what have yall done to pass the time of your loved ones being gone. he is also going to be deployed out to. tis is our first deployment and i am scared to death. i need to know what to do. can anyone help me out. 

Poe --- 2 years ago -

How old are you? 

bigmamaperry --- 2 years ago -

i'm 26 

bnicelyyy --- 2 years ago -

obviously, tons of us have been in your shoes or will be, but I can definitely say that I have. the best advice I can give to you based on what I've gone through is to build a life outside of your husband. find something you like to do and pour your heart and time into it. I made the mistake of surrounding every aspect of my life around my husband, which is normal, but when they leave you're left with nothing. I quickly learned that I had to build a life outside of him and our marriage even if it was something small, so that when he leaves you have that to hang onto. I also reached out to the wives in my husbands unit around me. you'll find that they're going through the same exact thing and need you for support, too. I know these sound like obvious things, but when we actually do them, they make a big difference when they're gone. 

JediMommy --- 2 years ago -

Def reach out to friends or make friends with women in the same situation but, def put your focus on something else. If you have children then focus more on them. If not focus on yourself. Maybe get a job if you don't have one or get a hobby or something. 

JAV87 --- 2 years ago -

Just be catious some friendships with wives cause more drama than they are worth. Choose wisely. I actually spend most of my time alone because I cannot deal with drama. I am coming up on my husband's second deployment but he is always gone with or without deployments. I get used to it. Make friends just don't attach yourself to one if that makes sense. 

Northernpeach --- 2 years ago -

Just be catious some friendships with wives cause more drama than they are worth. Choose wisely. I actually spend most of my time alone because I cannot deal with drama. I am coming up on my husband's second deployment but he is always gone with or without deployments. I get used to it. Make friends just don't attach yourself to one if that makes sense. 

Perfect advice.. And maybe don't post on blogs or on your fb everyday about him being gone so people don't know your all alone :) 

bigmamaperry --- 2 years ago -

hank you all for the wonderful advice you have given 

accountnickname --- 2 years ago -

If it helps you feel better, my husband has been gone half our 11 yr marriage on deployments, schools, and other things and no one has ever tried to mess with me in any way. 

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