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Sierra --- 16 years ago -

I need to get this out of my system...I recently found out i was preggo for the first time. My hubby and i were trying. My family is really happy for me except for my sister who is the closest family i have geographically (sp). She has a son who is almost two but she recently was preggo too and lost the baby at 12 weeks. so all she does is make me feel bad about getting pregnante. Oh ya and also i feel bad for her loss but she smoked and did other stuff...i really want this baby and i quit smoking and am living a lot better. She is just pissin me off cuz she should be happy for me but all she does is act depressed and stuff...oh its been 6 months since her miscarriage shouldnt she be over it by now? 

whatevergirl ツ --- 16 years ago -

Wow you sound a little insensitive. I think it takes awhile to get over a miscarriage and you being pregnant probably brings the emotions out more. Just because she smoked doesn't mean the miscarriage can be justified. 

♥MACaholic♥ --- 16 years ago -

A miscarriage is a hard loss...its possible she is still just in the grief process. 

buddaswife --- 16 years ago -

um, no she's not over it by now. 

annie kate --- 16 years ago -

oh its been 6 months since her miscarriage shouldnt she be over it by now? I miscarried about a year ago and for some ppl its something you will never really "get over". But just the same, dont let anyone else ruin how you feel. Celebrate and be happy!!! You have a little one to grow now... CONGRATS! 

EastCoast --- 16 years ago -

shouldnt she be over it by now? She lost her kid! Holy crap! My mom had her last miscarriage over 20 years ago and she still mourns the loss. It's a baby..in or out of the womb. I would smack the shit outta my sister if she said something so stupid! 

RockinJanie04 --- 16 years ago -

I know a few people that never get over a miscarriage 

T♥K♥C 6 --- 16 years ago -

Women deal with the loss of their children in different ways. Give her grieving time, and you stick to enjoying your pregnancy. 

RockinJanie04 --- 16 years ago -

totally agree ECB 

Sierra --- 16 years ago -

ok i might sound insensitive but all i want is for her to stop bringing it up to me and making me feel like crap about it. When i told her i was preggo she said in a smarta$$ way "i hope it doesnt die like mine did" 

Sweets --- 16 years ago -

You may think your sister may be over her miscarriage BUT she truly may not be and has feeling bottled up. So her knowing you're prego has sparked those feelings up internally which causes her to not be joyous over your pregnancy. I say give her space and not be pushy 

whatevergirl ツ --- 16 years ago -

Sierra think about if you lost this baby. How would you feel if someone told you to "get over it"? 

T♥K♥C 6 --- 16 years ago -

"i hope it doesnt die like mine did" Has she always been a harsh person, or did the miscarriage bring it out in her? Why does she make you feel like crap cause you've been blessed with a child? When ever she says something negative let her know it bothers you. If is continues then don't speak until she is ready. 

♥MACaholic♥ --- 16 years ago -

ok i might sound insensitive but all i want is for her to stop bringing it up to me and making me feel like crap about it. When i told her i was preggo she said in a smarta$$ way "i hope it doesnt die like mine did" I can see why you would be bitter towards her. But just wait I bet when your child is born, things will change. :-) 

RockinJanie04 --- 16 years ago -

my sister had a miscarriage about a week or two after i had my son. Everytime i'd talk about him and his newborn ways i could hear some sadness and some anger because i have so many kids and she's yet to have one. I try not to bring up my kids though i almost feel like i'm rubbing it in her face. 

♪♫♏ikayla --- 16 years ago -

Sierra, congrats :) 

T♥K♥C 6 --- 16 years ago -

my sister had a miscarriage about a week or two after i had my son. Everytime i'd talk about him and his newborn ways i could hear some sadness and some anger because i have so many kids and she's yet to have one. I try not to bring up my kids though i almost feel like i'm rubbing it in her face. That would be so hard, not to talk about your childre. My sister is still childless and she loves my kids like her own. But doesn't plan on having any soon. But I do hope when she wants them she is able to pop them out like a pez dispencer. 

Sair --- 16 years ago -

don't expect her to ever get over it. she has every right to mourn that loss for the rest of her life if she chooses. however, i don't think her loss should justify her attitude towards you. if you congratulated her on her pregnancy, she, as your sister, should congratulate you too. this will be her neice or nephew & she should be happy for you. as HER sister, you should respect her feelings. don't push this on her if she's not ready. give ehr some space & i'm sure she'll come to love & accept that child in the family. congrats. 

RockinJanie04 --- 16 years ago -

lol. yeah she loves my kids also but she's been trying for her own. She's been christmas shopping for my kids for awhile now. Esp. since she got her RN license and has school land and house paid off. My sister has got it all. Now she needs little monsters running around, and i hope she does get them soon. 

***KELLS*** --- 16 years ago -

i too was stupid and smoked when i was pregnant. but, i didnt find out until i was 3 months, because i had a period the whole time. my doc told me not to quit because as you go through withdrawals so does the baby. i have also had multiple docs say that smoking will not kill a baby while your pregnant, but its a higher risk for smaller head circumference,lower birth weight and more of a risk for SIDS. i have been pregnant twice since then, one of which i lost when i was 36 weeks preg. that was my baby girl. your sister will NEVER get over that loss. and although im happy for everyone that is pregnant, i still have a small resentment towards them because i want to be pregnant so badly.and the sad part, is ive had a healthy baby girl since i lost lily.but i still have those feelings around anyone that is pregnant. you are being kind of insensitive. it is def something that is really hard to deal with 

***KELLS*** --- 16 years ago -

oh, and my daughter would have been 4 on sept 3. its been that long and guess what...i have not even come close to getting over it. on another note, congrats on your pregnancy...i hope everything is healthy and good to go!!! 

Michelle R --- 16 years ago -

my mom is in her 70's and still grieves over her miscarriage in her 20's!!! That is your child...born or not. Congrats on your pregnancy but try to be a little more sensitive to your sister. she went through a lifechanging thing. 

Me+3 --- 16 years ago -

You are being extremely insensitive. As a person who has suffered two losses you never really get over it and while she shouldn't have said something so emmotive to you, I would hope you'd be the bigger person and realize she is grieving the death of her child and take a step back and be there for her. Of course your child counts and you have every right to shout it from the rooftops, but I would be mindful that what she is going through is real, traumatic and may take more than a couple months to get over... more like a lifetime if that. You should just tread gently and be there for her. Its a rough thing to go through. 

whatevergirl ツ --- 16 years ago -

I would try talking to your sister. I would express to her how sorry you are for her loss and then I would tell her how much it hurts you not to have her support. You two are just going to have to have a nice conversation about this. 

CPPrincess(Mystic chocolate) --- 16 years ago -

its been 6 months since her miscarriage shouldnt she be over it by now? you are never OVER the loss of a child.. Talk to her 

SgtDyersGirl --- 16 years ago -

I would talk to her about it. I had a miscarriage in 05 and it took me quite a while to get over it. Babies were a double edged sword to me for a while. 

♪♫♏ikayla --- 16 years ago -

She might be thinking it's not fair that she lossed her child and you got pregnant. Don't take that as harsh, but that's what might be whispering in her mind. Losing a child is very hard, I lost one a couple years ago. I never stop thinking about it. I'm sorry that she seems to be negative towards you. You both need to come to an understanding with eachother, I don't know how to tell you to do that though. I wish you guys the best! Congrats again :) 

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