Recently I moved into WM1 housing while most everyone is great there is just "one" that is a standout! I have never in my life seen such a crazy! So many kids and "she" treats a certain one like "he" is the "red-headed" step child. It disgusts me, you can see the hurt all across the poor kids face! When they are outside he is always chasing after the other kids, doesn't even look like he's allowed to make friends bc he has to take care of her duties. She doesn't hide how she feels about him that's for sure you can hear it in her voice when she "talks" -more like degrades him! He looks so sad. You walk past the house and it smells ridiculous! Or you can hear her yelling ALL the time. I'm pretty sure none of her kids are going to any type of school either! She looks like shes ready to just snap any minute, that's the constant look on her face. The situation just LOOKS terrible I can't imagine how those poor, poor kids feel! ---just needed a quick rant! 

My heart goes out to children who are in this kind of situation. have you tried contacting CPS?

Im keep them in my prayers. 

Are the kids school aged? She may be homeschooling, which may not be best if she's so stressed out.

I hope the kids are okay! I hate hearing these stories of kids not being treated properly. 

Maybe she just needs a friend or a break from kids and homelife

I agree, Maybe if you talk to her she just needs a friend and if her hubby is gone maybe that is causing all the problems :-( But if kids are getting hurt, or what not Obviously don't ignore it!! 

Maybe she just needs a friend or a break from kids and homelife

Even if she needs a "break" doesnt explain why she is only treating one of the children wrong. 

I don't think she needs a friend, if that were the case I would have been open to it. Treating a child as if he is a dog is not an excuse for needing a friend, The decision to be a parent comes before needing a friend. She has lose ends all over the place you can hear the different stories she tells people, one day it's 3 different dads next it's 4 then her husband is supposedly a constant cheater. Never once showing her concerns for her children! She knew what she was getting into by having that many kids. 

Even if she needs a "break" doesnt explain why she is only treating one of the children wrong. 

Exactly! If she needed a break from home life or being a parent, she should have stopped at 1. Parenting doesn't mean you get breaks! 

From the CPS website. Since the kid isn't in immediate danger that you know of, you can't just call CPS because you feel like it.

These services are available to children and their families when children are victims of, or at risk of, abuse, neglect, exploitation, or parental absence.

California law defines child abuse as any of the following:

A child is physically injured by other than accidental means.
A child is subjected to willful cruelty or unjustifiable punishment.
A child is abused or exploited sexually.
A child is neglected by a parent or caretaker who fails to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, medical care or supervision

http://www.dss.cahwnet.gov/cdssweb/pg93.htm 

Your right on that one. Being a parent exspecilly if you have alot of kids comes before needing a friend. 

When I said "friend" I just meant maybe she needs someone to talk too. I do not have any family other than my hubby, and if he were gone I would be upset to not have anyone to talk too. Granted, yes, this does not mean she should be able to treat her child like a dog, as you say, but maybe if you would get to know her and figure out why, you could help her? Or the child possibly...... 

I agree, Maybe if you talk to her she just needs a friend and if her hubby is gone maybe that is causing all the problems :-( But if kids are getting hurt, or what not Obviously don't ignore it!! 

Verbal abuse is child abuse. Plain and simple. Sometimes worse than the physical aspect. 

maybe she is going thru a lot which is still not a excuse,have u talked to her? 

you can't just call CPS because you feel like it.

You can call CPS when you feel like a child may be in danger. So that being said yes you can call whenever you feel need be. 

When I said "friend" I just meant maybe she needs someone to talk too. I do not have any family other than my hubby, and if he were gone I would be upset to not have anyone to talk too. Granted, yes, this does not mean she should be able to treat her child like a dog, as you say, but maybe if you would get to know her and figure out why, you could help her? Or the child possibly...... 



I don't think I or many others could befriend a woman who I wouldn't even allow around my own children. I think things may be a little to in depth for that. I do understand where you are coming from though! 

Verbal abuse is child abuse. Plain and simple. Sometimes worse than the physical aspect.
I agree with that, I'm just saying that you can't just call CPS because she called the kid a name. If that were the case then I would be on the phone with them every single time I went to Walmart or dollar stores because some nasty mom was being mean to her kid. 

From what the op posted it seems like the child is subjected to verbal abuse on a daily basis. 

I don't think I or many others could befriend a woman who I wouldn't even allow around my own children. I think things may be a little to in depth for that. I do understand where you are coming from though!

Well I just mean trying to talk to her, not asking her to watch your kids overnight or anything :-) I just suggested that so maybe someone could help her get the right help if she needs it, or help the child you know. 

Well then if that really is the case, stop complaining on here where she won't see it and do something about it. 

From what the op posted it seems like the child is subjected to verbal abuse on a daily basis.
I agree on that also, if you think the child is in danger or being mentally abused why don't you make a phone call to CPS? If what you see is true you will help the child and if not then at least someone professional looked into it more and sees that the child is in no harm. 

Maybe the OP just needed to vent. 

I believe from what the other woman have said they all already have with nothing being done. I would never depend on the system anyways! They have loads of things to review. Things can easily be missed. 

I think if you see her outside treating the child poorly then it must be worse inside. Not only that, if she treats the one badly, the rest will learn to do the same to him. He must be miserable. I would say something to her, let her know that you see what she's doing. Needing help doesn't justify cr@pping on a little kid on a daily basis. 

I think if you see her outside treating the child poorly then it must be worse inside. Not only that, if she treats the one badly, the rest will learn to do the same to him. He must be miserable. I would say something to her, let her know that you see what she's doing. Needing help doesn't justify cr@pping on a little kid on a daily basis. 

I couldn't agree more. I don't even want to imagine. My fears are She may become offended then take it out on the little boy if I do approach her. It's just very wishy washy 

What street? if you don't mind me asking. 

Carnation 

I believe that's it. 

Oh ok just curious ;)

There are a lot of women like the one mentioned above! 

There are a lot of women like the one mentioned above!

Thats sad:( 

Thats sad:(

It is, some of them even train their kids to NOT speak up if CPS is called.. or if anyone asked them. I only know because I know people like this. And no I don't live in WM 1 or do I have a son.. just incase people think I'm the lady mentioned in the post. lol 

some of them even train their kids to NOT speak up if CPS is called.. or if anyone asked them.

I dont know why or how someone can be so sick in doing something like that or harming emotionally or physicaly a child they brought into this world. Stress or not you should NEVER EVER take anything out on a poor innocent child who cant defend themselfs.